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writes:Our parents are divorced and my brother (14) visits our dad for twice a month. I don't see him but he is having a negative effect on my brother. He is becoming really sexist and says things like men should give women a "good slap" if they disobey them. (this is what my dad used to do to our mom). He's also said other derogatory things about women in general. I know its our dad that is causing this because he started when he started seeing him again after he came out of prison. What can I do because my dad is transforming my brother into a horrible person, my brother is my best friend and I love him but I hate what he is becoming.Btw I'm his older sister (17)
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (19 March 2010):
Tell him girls dont like guys who act like that. The best opportunity is when he needs advice on getting a girl.
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 When he says these things, ask him if he thinks it applies to you and your mother, too. How would he feel if either of you were being abused or disrespected by a man? Every woman is someone's sister, mother, or daughter and deserves to be treated with the same respect he wants you and your mom to receive.
He probably missed having a father around and, like most boys, admires his dad. It's okay to love your father, but your little brother also needs to understand that sentiments like this are probably part of the reason why your father went to prison in the first place. Let him know that if he decides to emulate your father in thought and deed, he can also expect to end up there, too.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 March 2010):
Ask him why he thinks it. Every single time he says something, ask him about it.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (18 March 2010):
 when your brother says stuff like that call him on it. let him know its not funny and that it bothers you. if he looks up to you at all, he may change.
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