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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. We both love each other very much and I want to spend the rest of my life with him but his compulsive lying is ruining any chance of happiness together. He's told me that he's lied eversince he can remember. And because his father passed away when he was younger, his mother worked three jobs, therefore she never took the time to discipline him for lying. I believe that he wants to stop, but this habit is all he's ever known. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, missdee +, writes (8 September 2005):
He has taken the first step and acknowledged he has a problem. Perhaps some counciling would help him. If it is a habit then he needs to think of someway to break the habit. Maybe like when he starts to say something, take a deep breath and think is this going to be the complete truth when it comes out of my mouth, or if he says something that is not true immediately stop and say no that is not true this is the truth. You can help him by asking him if it doesn't sound true if it is true. Tell him in advance you are going to do this and only because you want to help him and believe everything he says. After a while he should be able to get into the habit of telling the truth. Be patient he didn't develp this habit of lying over night he won't get rid of it overnight.
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