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writes:Alright I need some seriouse help. So homecoming is coming up and I'm really excited to go, and at lunch this guy asked me to homecoming, and he kept walking, so at first I thought he was just joking around, but then I heard him say "no don't! I already asked her." and I noticed his friend was starting to walk towards my lunch table before the guy pulled him back and said that, and later he said he wasn't joking, like he could read my mind or something. Well I don't want to go to homecoming with him, but I don't want to be mean, because he's really sweet. I don't want to be like one of those girls who think they can get anyone they want and say no really mean, then go tell their friends, and have all their friends laugh. I don't want to be like that but I don't know how to say no nicely, I realize that either way he's going to get hurt either way, but I want to be nice. How do I say no to going to homecoming and be nice at the same time? That seems almost impossible. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 Hi sweets.........why don't you want to with him? Is it something about him or are you waiting for another guy to ask you? Just say, thank you so much, I am flattered, you are a really sweet guy but I'm not sure if I want to go or I am going with the girls. If you do end up going with another guy he will be very hurt.What is it about this guy that doesn't make you want to go with him? If you don't have a boyfriend and are just hoping for your crush to ask you out then ask yourself how you would feel if your crush doesn't want to go with you and this guy loses interest in you. He sounds really sweet and it sounds like he really likes you. I would say yes unless I had a bf.
Have a blast hun!!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 September 2010):
Yep. Say this.
"You're a really lovely, sweet guy, and you're going to make another lucky girl really happy someday. I'm very flattered you like my, but I'm sorry, I'm just not ready for a relationship at the moment.
That's about as nice as it can get really. But this way you're being polite, making sure he knows he's a nice guy, but also being firm enough that he knows you're not interested. Hopefully he'll be mature enough to understand.
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reader, raiders +, writes (14 September 2010):
 Just say sorry but you can't go to homecoming dance with him that you had already made plans for that event...No need to sugarcoat it just tell him, so he get any false hope.
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