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writes:My expectations of life have always been quite high, ie I have always assumed things would be perfect and everything would turn out well in the end etc etc. ( like a film) However this has meant that life has let me down a lot. Nothing has ever gone how I thought or wanted it to go and I constantly feel like I get the short end of the stick.This doesn't seem to be a problem for other people, does everyone feel like this and just get used to it? How do I lower my expectations and be more realistic about life? thanks
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reader, LauraE +, writes (27 July 2007):
Life isn’t perfect, but how good it is depends mostly on you. If you really want something that’s worth having, then you usually have to work for it. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you don’t come first, or get the guy, or the job, or the college place, or your friends let you down. People aren’t perfect – just like you – so don’t be too hard on them either. You need to learn to value them for who they are. Just be sure to dump the nasty ones. You can be just as happy with a life that is not outwardly successful or glamorous. Don’t be fooled by the media hype – plenty of rich and famous people have miserable lives. Plenty of people that you know personally who seem to have a much better life than you, will have all sorts of problems and hang-ups that you have no idea of. Try not to be too introspective – get out there and enjoy yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): When you learn to let go of the concept that everything will work out perfect life gets easier. You need to change your thinking patterns and I strongly recommend you consider reading some articles about this or look stuff up on the internet. I have had similar thinking and felt let down all the time. However I got depressed because I started giving up - I would decide that nothing was ever going to go right so its not worth trying. Break free and don't slip into that. You need to expand your thinking and try something new that you have never done before - it will motivate and inspire you and make you realise that things can be different to what you've 'mapped out' in your film - and they can still be good! Don't sabotage yourself!
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Anonymous, This is your life! You're contradicting yourself. You're saying this is how life is, but you are expecting something different. Films are just that, films. They're not real. I suggest that you start looking inside yourself for happiness, otherwise you will continually be dissatisfied with your circumstances.
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reader, myp +, writes (27 July 2007):
 youre right, life isnt like a movie, you have to put in work... a lot of work. Relationships and friendships are a 50/50 deal, but if you put in your work you definitely deserve the happy ever after. The problem is often times lifes a bitch and shit happens, you have to learn that things always change... if you feel like hell then things either have to get better or worse, if they get worse and you fnally hit bottom the only place to go is up...
if youre friggin elated all the time, chances are youll have a rough patch, all in all general happiness can be achieved if you work at it and forgive a little....
not a lot just a little
for instance if a guy cheats dump him, if he forgets your favorite color cut him sum slack...
u shouldnt lower your expectations u just have to make sure you meet or exceed the expectations of the person you care about and even then... lifes a gamble
-Myesha
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