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writes: Hi, this is just a general question.Im not pretending to be some kind of stud or anything, but a few times in my life so far Ive had girls practically throw themselves at me.The first time this happened was on a film course and I was in a relationship already. The girl who was interested was very pretty and great fun to talk to, the problem is I believe in being loyal to whoever im with (I know weird huh lol)So I didn't know what to say to her. So for the rest of the course I decided not to talk to her anymore.The second time was last year at work. This girl was a very beautiful girl who was also great to talk to. Although I was single Im about 30 and want the relationships im in now to have more substance. She was only 20 and was more a party type girl and that not what I want. So i was nice and talked to her but I didn't respond to her flirting, hoping she'd get the message.What I would like to know is what is the best way to have dealt with this situation as I feel really guilty, especially about the first girl.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (16 October 2009):
 I find the best way to deal with that situation is to mention your partner in conversation and subtly make it clear how into her you are. That's usually enough to give people a message without the discomfort of actually asking them to back off a bit. If someone persists after you've made it clear that you're spoken for I think it's perfectly OK to keep conversation with them to a minimum. Good on you for being loyal to your girlfriends, most guys can't do that because their ego's are bigger than their morals. :)
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reader, YourDestiny11  +, writes (16 October 2009):
 You sound like a great loyal guy! Theres not much you can do to keep from hurting their feelings...just talk to them and tell them the truth, you are in a serious relationship and are very loyal to your girlfriend...most girls will understand and appreciate the honesty! Good luck!
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