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Am I right to doubt my boyfriend?

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Question - (7 October 2007) 10 Answers - (Newest, 3 November 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Ok, here's the problem, I love my bf but lately he has been saying how nice looking and open-minded my best friend is, my brother has told me to leave him because he thinks he is cheating on me and I want to leave him but we live in the same house and have the same bank account. What should I do? Help...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007):

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Ok, umm...I don't know how to say this but I think you all have a right to know so umm...my bf has been having an affair with my best friend...that's just all I have to say.

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A female reader, toughlove United States +, writes (9 October 2007):

Just because he complements your friend you are thinking of ending the relationship? You are really going too fast both ways - 1) You shouldn't have moved in and agreed to share a bank account with someone with whom there's so little trust, 2) You shouldn't leave someone just because of a little unpleasantness. Look at yourself and how you think! If I was your boyfriend, I'd also do some character comparisons and maybe find in someone else's favor! Work on being the best girlfriend you can be and then if you actually have some valid reason to dump him, then do it, otherwise you'll just be like a leaf that gets carried around by the wind of your own whims.

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A female reader, toughlove United States +, writes (9 October 2007):

Just because he complements your friend you are thinking of ending the relationship? You are really going too fast both ways - 1) You shouldn't have moved in and agreed to share a bank account with someone with whom there's so little trust, 2) You shouldn't leave someone just because of a little unpleasantness. Look at yourself and how you think! If I was your boyfriend, I'd also do some character comparisons and maybe find in someone else's favor! Work on being the best girlfriend you can be and then if you actually have some valid reason to dump him, then do it, otherwise you'll just be like a leaf that gets carried around by the wind of your own whims.

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A female reader, toughlove United States +, writes (9 October 2007):

Just because he complements your friend you are thinking of ending the relationship? You are really going too fast both ways - 1) You shouldn't have moved in and agreed to share a bank account with someone with whom there's so little trust, 2) You shouldn't leave someone just because of a little unpleasantness. Look at yourself and how you think! If I was your boyfriend, I'd also do some character comparisons and maybe find in someone else's favor! Work on being the best girlfriend you can be and then if you actually have some valid reason to dump him, then do it, otherwise you'll just be like a leaf that gets carried around by the wind of your own whims.

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A female reader, Pinkbees09 United States +, writes (8 October 2007):

Pinkbees09 agony auntYour welcome, hope everything goes ok.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007):

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Thanks for you all asnwering!!

I especially want to thank flower girl and pinkbees09 you really have got through to me :) thankyou.

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A female reader, flower girl United Kingdom +, writes (7 October 2007):

flower girl agony auntDo you have any reason to think that he is cheating on you, as you have to bear in mind brothers can be very protective over their sisters and it's not always what they think.

Also you say you wabt to leave him and they fact that you live in the same house and have the same bank account should not make that much difference as these things are easily sorted out.

Have you got anyone that you could go and stay with at the moment?

You can stop any money that you have going into the joint account and then go and set up your own account somewhere else.

Follow your gut instincts as they are usually right, you have to be happy all the other bits and pieces can be sorted at a later date babe.

Take care.xx.

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A female reader, dafni Cyprus +, writes (7 October 2007):

dafni agony aunti had the same problem with you in my previous relationship.my bf used to talk a lot with my female best friend through msgs and calls.i was very annoyed,but i talked to him about it,and he understood.talk to him and decide for yourself if this guy is worth being with.if you still want to leave him,don't worry about anything,you don't have to tolerate him just because you have the same bank account!!

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A female reader, Pinkbees09 United States +, writes (7 October 2007):

Pinkbees09 agony auntDon't do anything drastic. He may just be saying this because he talks to your best friend as a friend too but I don't know. Ask him about it before you break it off.

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A female reader, anneon Canada +, writes (7 October 2007):

anneon agony auntYou want to leave him- that says it all.

If you're not happy with him, and you want to leave him, then you need to do that. It's what's fair on you, and it's what's fair on him. You and him will have to sort out the details of who gets the house- maybe you should start looking for other places now, so that when you break up with him, you have somewhere to go. You could always go stay with a friend or family member.

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