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writes:I saw myself being together with this girl forever; I even thought about marriage. However, she broke up with me a few days ago... and I still love her and want her more than anything. I think she really is the perfect one for me and I am desperately wishing that she will come back to me.So how do I let her know I still love her? I don't care if it takes years for her to be ever attracted to me again. Should I stay single for a long time? Should I try talking to her? Should I try to sound very happy and unaffected by this? I just need her in my life again..
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reader, Kit-Kat  +, writes (4 January 2011):
Ask her why she broke up with you.
If it is something about you that is bothering her, are you willing to change to make her happy?
You just need to have a calm and mature discussion about how to get her back.
If things cant change and you cant have her back, try and get over it when you're ready, dont sit about with ben and jerry's forever
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reader, Plexi +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Do you know why she broke up with you in the first place? Did she ever share the same feelings for you( has she ever said that she loves you?) Try talking to her and tell her how you feel and see how she reacts. If it's true love she will be happy to hear all this and will meet you half way. Please keep in mind that you may want her just because she rejected you and you feel that you can not have her. You also don't want or need pity love. Taking some time for yourself to reflect and find yourself is not a bad idea but don't do this for too long because life will still go on and you might be missing out on meeting the true love of your life. The way you feel about her, might be the way someone else feels about you right now. Talk to her to see if there is still hope and if there isn't be strong and move on. Some people are just not meant to be together forever. People come into our lives for all sorts of reasons, not always to join us on our path.
Goof luck to you hun:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): She already knows you love her. But the more you try and keep reminding her, the more she'll back away. (Because then you're just trying to guilt her into feeling sorry for you.) Women want the best of both worlds in a confident man. He has to be equally balanced in being a sweetheart and bad a**. Tilt the scales too much on either side, then you become a push over or jerk. She also wants a man who knows what he wants and where he's going. Have a plan for your future and act on it. This shows us you're not a quiter. Have fun and maker her laugh, but don't disrepect her. If you really want her back, date. Dating will help you gain more confidence in yourself. And by all means, no matter how much you're compelled, DON'T tell her you've been dating other people. The next time she sees you, she'll notice and wonder why you seem appealing to her again. Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 First of you need to find out what her reasons were for breaking up with you and you need to try and resolve these issues. If she tells you that she doesnt love you anymore and that you done nothing wrong its just she cant help how she feels then am sorry but you just need to accept that and move on. Tell her you still love her tell her you are hurting and want to be with her and are willing to do anything to make it right. But if she is not willing to give you another chance then you need to accept that and move on with your life and accept that she is no longer a part of you. Staying single for a very long time and holding out on hope just prolongs the pain and heartache so just be open and honest with her and tell her how you feel and ask her to be honest with you as well.
Goodluck.
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