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writes:Ok, Not sure what has gotten into my wife, have had a strange New Year thus far.Anyhow, leading up to the New Year she is making her resolution list and out of the blue comes up with an idea and leaves the room to write her thought down, meanwhile saying "You'll like this one!" Mind you we don't share our resolutions with each other until the following year.Ok, keep that in mind and also the fact that our sex life has been lacking lately, with her focus being school and work over the past couple of years and she knows it's lacking as we've had many discussions over it.New Years night rolls on and she got a bit drunk on Champagne. Well she got a bit argumentative over the littlest things, I knew it was the bubbly speaking and avoided the argument, but it kept going and going. Well, I restrained myself pretty good, while not becoming a pushover at the same time. The passion actually carried over to sex.We have been pretty routine as of late when it comes to sex. We do the things we know make us orgasm, nothing more nothing less. I have tried to change the routine to no avail. Anyhow, that night as I am going down on her she tells me to finger her anus. Without going into extreme detail, it didn't stop there. We did many new things and she was wild and a bit dirty and she ended it by swallowing, which she never does.Anyways, my question is about whether she is telling me she wants something more. She was stimulated by the anal play (does this mean she wants anal? She also was stimulated heavily when we were in 69 (her on top) and I was fingering her anus pretty hard and deep simulating sex and thrusting into her mouth. When I would stop my thrusting she would smack me to keep going. She's never been much into this type of stuff. She was moaning and even mentioned during the acts that it felt so good having all holes attended to. Does this mean she wants more? More than one person?Am I reading into it? I know the only real answer is to ask her, but your opinions are appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): In my opinion, I think alcohol may have had a severe affect on such an evening and since you already agreed she was acting different "cause of the bubbly", Id say that this experience may have just been a one time thing. Nonetheless, ask her pal. Also, way to avoid the conflict when someone is drinking. That kind of thing is easily to get mixed up into and you used good judgment by trying to avoid. Good luck on this.
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reader, Odds +, writes (4 January 2011):
 I think the important part of it is this - "...avoided the argument, but it kept going and going. Well, I restrained myself pretty good, while not becoming a pushover at the same time. The passion actually carried over to sex."
Rather than arguing, or "discussing" the way you have about her school, you basically acted the part of the man, held your ground, and refused to engage in a childish fight that would not lead anywhere. Then, bam, good sex.
Make it a resolution to have only productive discussions in the future, on your terms, and see if that helps her keep her resolution. Next time a discussion is devolving into pointlessness, remember what you did here and do it again.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 I think you are reading in to it to much. My guess is that your wifes resolution was to be more adventerous in bed therefore enjoy it and dont worry that she is wanting to invite someone else in to your bedroom as am sure she is just wanting to put the spark back in to your bedroom life therefore just enjoy it.
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reader, Godchild +, writes (3 January 2011):
Seem to me she showed you a side you never seen. I can't speak on her feelings. I know when the mood is right and I have a good drink being champagne or dark liquor oh please believe it's going down.I think she made of had a bit much and was really into it. You did say sex was lacking, she probably had a serious build up. Maybe you should ask her about this. But hey enjoy it while it last.
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