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writes:I found a woman that I thought was the woman of my dreams. She seemed to fill every need I had as far as relationships go. She made me want to be a better person in all aspects of my life, personally, professionally, spiritually, etc. I was/ am madly in love with this woman.Well, come to find out, I was snowed. I think she used me to get her old boyfriend to come back to her. Now she tells me she doesn't love me and that she loves him and only wants to be friends with me.How can I let go of her? How do I stop hurting? How do I feel better? How do I get her out of my head and out of my heart? How do you move on?I'll admit it. I am sick of crying and hurting over her, but I don't know how to stop thinking about her and missing her and hurting.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (19 January 2010):
Unfortunately, that's just the way life works sometimes. All you can do is learn from it. Just remember to tell yourself, "what happened wasn't my fault", because it certainly wasn't your fault.
I know it's hard right now and I know you are hurting. The pain will go away, but it will take time, might even take a long time. But hang in there, you will get through it. In the meantime, do what you can to take your mind off it; go out with your friends, go to movies or concerts, take up a new hobby, go on a vacation. These won't solve your problem, but they may help you forget her a bit quicker.
Best of luck!
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reader, Lost_guy +, writes (19 January 2010):
Lost_guy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's just it tho, I don't want to feel this way anymore. I don't want to miss her anymore. I don't want to be upset anymore.
She convinced me that I wasn't a rebound. That she was over him and was never going back. Now I am the one sitting here with a broken heart. WHY?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): you get over slowly and who cares if you still cry. it shows that you have real emotions and that you were genuine. she used you, and i know it hurt but in the long run you are better off. do not attempt to even be friends with her. cut her off completely. if you shed some more tears its ok, mourn the loss of what could have been, then dry them tears and move on. slowly. when you get into the next relationship make sure you are not the rebound guy.
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reader, Lost_guy +, writes (19 January 2010):
Lost_guy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, so I am trying to do everything I can to not contact her and to just stay away from her.
Now how do I stop crying like a little baby? How do I get over the hurt?
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (19 January 2010):
I feel for you. At least she was honest with you, but that certainly doesn't blunt the hurt. As much as you may not want to hear it, I think the best thing you can do is move on with your life and have as little contact as possible with her. Otherwise, everytime you see or talk to her, the hurt will resurface and you'll never get over it.
Best of luck!
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reader, Digiman  +, writes (18 January 2010):
 Wow! What a B----!!!
Man...Yes! Cut all contact off with her first...She doesn't deserve your friendship!
Dollars to donuts she'll regret her little game in the long run!!!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 January 2010):
Don't be friends with this girl. Cut all contact. That's the first step. She has used you, and you can do better and do not need a woman like that in your life. End all contact. Then, just spend a lot of time on yourself. Continue bettering yourself, continue with work or studying, and continue having fun with your own friends. The way to get over her is to really immerse yourself in everything else. Then one day you'll have forgotten about her and you'll find someone who actually does love you.
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