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writes:Hi. Looking for some advice. Im a first time mum...so naturally everything is new to me. Im 30 weeks pregnant today. The past 4/5 days my baby hasnt been moving alot at all ... not i know babys movements do change but things just dont feel right with her movements. She is barelt moving at all and when she does its very light kicks, i would even say it jist fdels like gas. Instead of the hard and very very frequent ones im used too. I have been to the hospotal and been assessed a couple of times... a ctg test and a scan both show she is okay...i keep getting told if i worry about her moving im to go back...but i am worrying all the time as i say the past 5 days or so just doesnt feel right. Am i silly to worry even though tests have shown shes okay? How do i know when to and when not to? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 May 2014):
 You are normal.. first pregnancies are all new to you so you have no clue if it's "normal" or not.
You are doing it right... in touch with the medical professional and told to come in at any worry.. that's perfect.
and yeah towards the end they run out of room. I had one that came early because he ran out of room try having an 8 1/2 pound premie... no one could believe he had to be in special care....
you are not silly to worry and it's really just practice for after she's born... you get to worry about all sorts of new things.
TRY to relax...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 May 2014):
 Ooops! Sorry OP, my apologies. Silly me.Wrong poster, that was obviously an answer for another question.
Anyway, - since we are at it ,I'll answer yours too :
I think it's all normal, from 29 / 30 weeks on your baby is becoming bigger and taking up more space, it has no room for making cartwheels like before, the movements will be lighter... as long as you still feel the baby moving every day, even if it does not kick hard, everything should be fine. Said that, if you feel worried / anxious- DO go to the hospital for a check up ; better safe than sory and better being TOO careful than not enough,- and they also have told you to exactly this, so ..just go.
I am sure that everything will be fine , though :). Best wishes.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (18 May 2014):
Ah so it was sort of long distance... I think that may be the reason. Long distance is a lot of effort and expenses, I am not saying he did not like you, but just " like " often is not enough for people to pursue a LDR,if it's not something really " wow ! " they get discouraged.
There's no law that says you can't ask him all you want, but I doubt you'll get somewhere. If he had wanted to share the reason with you, nothing prevented him from telling you . " Dear X, I enjoyed talking to you for these past 4 months, BUT unluckily I have realized that ( add reason for not wanting to continue ) ". If he did not do that, it's because he feels embarassed/ awkward / feels he hasn't got a good reason ... so keep in mind that your request for explanations may be met with stony silence, or with some lame , scarcely believable bullshit.
An advice for the future- of course everybody have their own online dating techniques, FWIW my opinion is that if somebody is really interested, and really serious about seeking a r/ship, they'll meet you in person within few days, make it 2-3 weeks at the very max. They''ll make time, and they'll make it happen. Otherwise, chances are that they are just shooting the breeze and killing time. Unless if the distance is so huge that it is really unmanageable in practice,- but in this case, why even starting something .
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 May 2014):
 Every baby is different. Every pregnancy is different too.
The further along you get the less you might feel movement, as the baby is slowly running out of room.
For me, drinking a glass of orange juice ALWAYS made an impression on the little one (during all 3 pregnancies) for whatever reason it got them up and moving.
I don't blame you for worrying. I think it's only natural to worry a little bit.
If the orange juice doesn't get you a reaction, I'd call and have them look at you or... IF you feel like something is wrong, DO NOT feel silly, CALL and have them look at you and the baby. Better go in one time too many. The doctors and midwives are USED to women who are worried :)
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 May 2014):
Some women just worry a ton when they're pregnant. Some don't worry about a thing. There's no way to know exactly what is worth going to the doctor about unless you are a Dr. So just use your best instincts and go when you feel it's needed.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (18 May 2014):
 I have had 2 children and I do understand your concerns. In the case of pregnancy, its better to be safe than sorry. The baby is in your body so you know more than anyone else if something doesn't feel right. If it doesn't feel right, go have things checked out. There's no shame in being worried and wondering if everything is alright. Please go see your doctor/health care giver. They've already told you if you are worried to come back in, so just go. I wish you all the best sweetie. My first pregnancy I think I drove everyone around me nuts because I was so worried but the thing is..you dont know and its hard to feel calm and secure when you are worried and scared. Go right away, don't put it off.
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