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writes: How do I 'make love' to my girlfriend on the telphone? We have kissed each other this way. Has any other boyfriend done this with their long distance girlfriend?
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reader, Kelkels  +, writes (12 June 2010):
I enjoy phone sex with my girl whenever we are apart.
A few things have always worked for us.
Try and only doing to yourself what the other person lets you to do. You can tease each other as much as you want. Bringing each other close to climax and then stopping like good teasing normal sex.
Be as descriptive as you can. As much as you would read in a book. Use teasing words like slowly, gently, faster, lightly , hard, quicker, wet etc when describing. description is the key.
Lose your inhibitions. It can be strange at first and you may be self conscious.
Make sure if you are a girl that you lie with your head on a pillow and you phone against your ear leaving you to use both hands.
Make sure any promises you make are fulfilled when you actually meet again. This gives a good reason to have phone sex again.
Never rush in, you have to build the mood. Like foreplay.
Try and get the girl to use toys, then you can compare them to yourself when describing or she can describe what they feel like.
Take turns as much as you can. One talk then the other.Until the end - keep the conversation going as much as you can.
Breath as heavy as you can, it turns each other on.
Finish at the same time otherwise it can be weird with one person still going and the other not.
... hope this helps
If anyone else has any tips that I could use (always ready to learn) my e-mail is [email address blocked]
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Close your eyes!Love to hear my guy sighing, deep breathing, moaning while cumming, and I having orgasm after orgasm. Like we in bed together.By closing your eyes you intensify the sex. You become one in love.Be uninhibited, with noises. Just like you both are together in bed. Say you love her, take her to places in love she's never been before.
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reader, jale +, writes (3 August 2008):
hello if you wanna make your girl cum over the phone you have to pretend like your f*cking her move about as much as posible and moan and ask her if she like it ruff and hard n she will come
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): tell her what you would do if u were ther.
tell her what ur doin right now, etc.
Anything like that
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): 1- get naked
2-Close your eyes
3- picture her there w/ u
4-tell her wat u want to do to her
5-MOAN and GROAN! she will LOVE this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): sometimes, reading things or thinking about something someone said earlier about sex can turn me on.
"do you want my hard in your soft?"
"you get me hard"
basically anything describing a penis gets me off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): All you have to do is close your eyes.. and pretend she's there. Tell her what you wish you could be there to her.. . Worry more about her because you're probably going to take the lead. Just explain what you wish you were doing.. like touching, feeling, kissing, sucking, those kinds of things.. Tell her you're going to wait until she is begging for it and moaning your name before you fuck her hard or something. try starting off slowly.. like.. im kissing your neck, then move down to boob attention, and then even lower. Dont start off with i wanna stick my dick inside you until you're both hot and she says she's wet. Then say how badly u wanna fuck her, what position etc.
My boyfriend and I live really far away cuz he just moved. Phone sex is pretty much all we do. But like i said.. just be really dirty, you should know what turns her on so use that as an advantage. As for you, normally listening to her moan and breathe will get you excited. but if it doesn't, ask her what she's doing (touching herself), and how good it feels.. blah blah.. just be creative.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (19 July 2007):
 I think I understand the "Kissing over the phone" business; You both kiss the phone at the same time, yes?
Anyway, phone sex. There are many ways to do this. The way I would normally do it; We'd talk about doing it (sometimes not, sometimes just spontaniously) I'd get into bed, while talking to her, then begin to take off my clothes. Let her know what I'm taking off (or if it's just spontanious, tell her that I'm naked on my bed, giving her an immediate picture and the element of surprise) and wish that she was there with me. She will hopefully do the same and then you can start instructing eachother, like; "Ok, start off nice and sloooowly, just a nice gentle rub is what I'd like to give you now" indicating that she should gently and slowly rub herself. This can the build up and then lead to you both having an orgasm at the same time. You can assist this by saying: "Ok, I'm really close now!! Fast as you can!! Go on!!" Lots of panting and heavy breathing are great for effect.
Anyway, that's just the way things were for me, so try and develop on this in a way you both enjoy, and are comfortable with.
I hope I helped.. without being too graphic :s
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): 4 things for phone sex: while you masturbate yourselves describe what youre doing, exactly how it feels, fantasy scenarios you invent and most importantly, agree beforehand on words/phrases you dont want to hear. then relax and slip sex into the conversation, about how you wish the person was there, what youd want them to do etc and carry it on from there. lots of moaning/heavy breathing is usually effective. you should agree on a word to bring things to an immediate halt if one of you is no longer comfortable or are interrupted.
hmm just out of curiosity, how exactly do you mean youv kissed each other this way....? cant quite work that one out
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reader, 911help  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 When having phone sex, picture what you want to do in your mind and tell her as you go. Make sure you use lots of adjectives and details. ex, wet, hard, hot.... Don't leave her hanging on the other end, make sure she is included in the phone sex! Good Luck!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 July 2007):
 ha ha Eddie...balance ha ha ha
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reader, eddie  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 In order to make love on the telephone, the most important thing is balance. I stand on one foot, placing it directly on the receiver. My wife then straddles my hips. Try using a cordless phone. This way you won't get tangled up. Occasionally when we've been really wild, we've been interrupted by the operator..........................
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the details. Very interesting.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Heya,
I'm not a big fan of phone sex as I tend to get very shy and self confident.
The few occassions me and my guy have had phone sex he describes what he would do if he was with me and I make noise down the phone as me moaning gets him off. I don't usually talk much as I clam up and am never quite sure what to say.
It can be quite nerve racking but I know a few people who are well in to it and get a lot out of it. You can also share what you are doing to your body and get your girlfriend to describe what she is doing to hers. Or, you could tell her what to do and listen to her reaction to it.
xxxxxx
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reader, kristinakutie +, writes (17 July 2007):
 hah its actually quite easy lol. just either get your gf to moan while shes masturbating on the phone. or if that doesnt work for you just talk about what you'd be doing if you were there.. its really simple once you do it more. and at first it mite be weird for her, or maybe even you too.. but you will get past the weirdness and it'll just become like a normal thing lol good luck =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): Such a good question as there is no class offered in phone sex. Having had some phone sex in my life, the best advice I can give is to take it slow. Pretend like you just started your physical relationship but over the phone. Stay away from using very harsh words at first such as the male "c" word and the female "p" word etc., unless you already use those words with each other . Do things like; if she is touching herself; how it feels. Tell her what you want to do to her. Don't be afraid to moan or breath heavy. That will let her know you are enjoying it. I find it helps if I close my eyes and invision myself with the woman. At that point, just tell her what is going on in your head. Details, details details! And remember, as with most things in a relationship, one person will definately take the lead. So just try to roll with it. Hope this helps.
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