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41-50,
*ightyhawk
writes:I am 17, and me and my boyfriend have just gone though serious trouble. It started when we argued over soeting stupid, i was drunk and overeacted, and threw my phone at him. He got really angry over the next few days although i tried to apologise and drop it, he even was wierd with me on my birthday. Then he tells me he want to go on a break, I was upset but went along. Then we both were at a party a few days later, and he started shouting, and went off crying with his friends. He kept saying he was confused. He really scared me. I went home with my best friend and her boyfriend and he kept calling me obsessively, but he was drunk. I didnt speak to him the next day, and then, the day after that, he admits to me that the night after we were at the party he kissed his ex girlfriend, the only girlfriend he has ever truely loved apart from me. I don't know what to do. Please help me.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 so the two of you get drunk and act like absolute villians to eachother - were is the maturity in this 'relationship'? well for starters having a girlfriend who gets sloshed and throws her fone at him is not something anyone wants to see or experience! you need to grow up and realise that drinking and acting uncontrollably is not wat solves any problems or arguments. you are both rubbing off eachother in the wrong way, wat are you going to do at every party? get drunk to make sure he doesnt kiss his ex? let him have her, i dont think the two of you should be together. two wrongs dont make a right relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): I think you are in an unhealthy and immature sounding relationship because the both of you have poor impulse control, which gets even worse when you decide to drink and get drunk.
You both are kids at 17, getting drunk is actually hurting your brain development and your growth, your skeleton, liver, hair, skin, you name it your whole body....for that reason alone you should stop getting drunk....for another reason you are developing poor relationship habits and poor habits over controlling your anger and other emotions....get healthy, stop drinking, stop yelling, stop dating and being needy and attached to this boy.....you have plenty of time for boyfriends and bad ones at that....Focus on other interests like school, hobbies, friends, family and furthering your education, maybe think about a goal or job you want to have in your future and work to make that happen, don't work to keep a boy from kissing his ex....how stupid does that sound? He's a jerk, he gets drunk, he cries, screams and yells and otherwise torments you.....how old are you 17? You sound like a 43 year old drunk divorcee.....how sad.....get out there, dump this boy and get a life! Please!
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