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writes:ok this is confusing but plz help.. so me and my ex where trying to work things out and after all the cheating she did and lies she did i dont want her back but its so hard to let her go when i say its over and she starts crying and begging and saying everything will be different this time. i learned my lesson and i know i need better so i put myself out there and i found this girl thats ive liked for 3 years and she likes me the other night we hung out and she really opened up we just talked and i loved that and then shes like leading me on that she wants to kiss so i was nervous like a little kid but i finally got the guts to kiss her. i told her my ex was coming over but i dont wanna be with her so it will be the last day with her. my ex wanted to go to the fair we have in our town this weekend and the other girl was working a booth i texted her and said my ex wants to go but i want to still have what we have and never see my ex again. so we get there to the fair and we walk past the other girl at the booth she give me a dirt face and i texted her and said sorry and me and her where still ok then we walk past again and my ex made me hold her hand and the other girls all pissed and texted me saying that she never wants to talk to me again how can u play me like that and i didnt play her i have strong feelings for her but she wont talk to me or anything now so plz help what can i do to get this girl to talk to me so i can tell her that i want her and get back what we had going? and how can i just stop feeling bad for my ex when she begs and crys for me back she cheated on me many times and i want a better and i want to start a fresh relationship plz help me?
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (8 September 2010):
you need to tell her its over shes holding you down and you will never be able to have a life until shes gone she will make sure of it. about the other girl i would buy really expensive flowers not red roses though thats comming on a bit too strong and beg her to listen to you and explain your ex cries and makes you feel guilty thats wat had happened that day but your done now and you are going to completely ignor her in the futer then you actually have to ignor her or she wont believe you
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Well,what do you expect. First just after kissing the new girl you tell her you are meeting your ex , but that will be the last time. Only, it's not really the last time because your ex wants to go to the fair with you , and, of course, you've gotta do all your ex wants right ? Then, you go to the fair and parade the ex around, hands holding, just in front of the new girl. Of course she felt played ! Your ex "made " you hold her hand ? And how exactly? At gun point ? Twisting your arm till it broke and your hand went limp ?...
Aw come on. You know you could have easily avoided all these complications by simply telling your ex that you are not comfortable any more with PDA since you are no more a couple. And, you could have added, because the girl I am now dating would be upset.
But you conveniently forgot to mention this detail. Why ? Because your ex would cry ?.. And let her cry ! Do you think is kinder stringing her on and letting her think you could get back together when you have already started dating again ?
Make up your mind. If you feel it's best for you letting your ex go, - then make a clean break and let her go. And don't tell yourself that you can't do that out of compassion- you can't because you don't want to let go. It sounds like you are still very taken with her and the only thing holding you back is that you are really scared she will cheat on you again ( quite probable : once a cheater ...)
Once you have made up your mind, and manned up enough to let her go for good,- then go back to the other girl and
grovel back into her good graces. Don't be surprised if she will make you sweat it, she is possibly and understandably very upset.
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