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writes:I hope my question goes up I really need help on this one. My boyfriend and I have started having sex and he is my FIRST! He's had a lot more experience and he's very pateint. The thing is I,m afraid to be on top because of my weight and also because i,ve never done it before and I,m afraid i will make a fool of myself :( So far he's been " leading " the way through it but i just can't How can i get the confidence to do this ???
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reader, pancakes rule +, writes (9 December 2011):
 Personally I disagree with what person12345 said about the sitting position not feeling great. When I first had sex it was with someone who was a lot more experienced as well, so I was really worried about disappointing him. The first time I was on top I felt very awkward about it, so I know what you mean!
What you could start with is having you both sitting up and he can guide you up and down. This feels great and is quite intimate as your faces are right next to each other.
I found it got easier from there, then he'd lie down and he'd still be doing most of the work until I got comfortable with my own thing.
Although it might feel a bit silly, you could practice at home if you just sit as if you are straddling him and move your pelvis. I found once I got comfortable with being on top in the sitting position, I was able to move down so our faces were together more easily.
As for your weight, I really wouldn't worry, this guy likes you and wants to have sex with you. He probably thinks you're beautiful and sexy and you have to love all your curves and believe that you really are the hottest girl in the world. He won't mind the weight. He probably even likes it!
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reader, person12345  +, writes (9 December 2011):
 Well for starters, you don't want to launch into that upright sitting position they show in movies. That is tiring, difficult, and IMO doesn't feel that great. I know it's not as sexy looking but I think the best way to start is doing a position where you lie on top of him. Sort of reverse missionary, legs stretched behind you and slide up and down. That way is great if you're feeling self conscious too because you're not on display so much. Plus all the extra skin contact feels great.
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reader, AlaMich88 +, writes (9 December 2011):
I totally understand how you feel when it comes to being top during sex. It took me a while to get comfortable on top mainly bcuz it hurt more but overtime I've learned to just go with it and the easiest way for me is to squat when im on top. Knees out to the side but not laying on the bed. He will then help the thrusting with his hands on my butt. Hope this makes sense and don't be shy of your weight in any position im the same way but just relax and have fun. Wouldn't hurt to maybe watch a porn clip to educate yourself. Hope I helped.
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