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writes:i have problems everywhere. first i needed to hand a slip in at school to get an interview for the sixth form but i didn't because the courses are just rubbish and the only thing i want to do is become a footballer or a racing driver. but if i want to become a racing driver i would have to got to america cause i only want to race in america first and then if i get the opportunity i would race in england. if i want to race i no that i have to get a job first and earn enough money so that i can buy an appartment and have enough for a flight and for raceing gear but my mum and dad dont want me to race but it is one of my biggests passions and i dont know how to tell them. my other problem is that i have a big crush on someone i have seen her before and just thought that she is cute i wouldn't kick her out of bed but the thing is that i saw her one day and she looked beautiful with her dress and lip stick on and now i can't stop thinking about her everytime i see her i blush and get butterflies in my stomach and i get this feeling when i know that i am going to see her and i want to get over her as quickly as possible because i know that i'll want to see her over and over again and i don't want to fall in love with her because she has a boyfriend and she is about 10 years older than me so i no we can't ever be together.how do i get over her and what do i do about my future thank you in advance for your answers i am sure they'll be very helpful
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (24 June 2009):
 Well what sort of racing driver do you want to be? F1? Or Nascar? Or any of the other series? Because if you want to be F1, then you cant go to America. They dont have F1 over there so you would be limited to Nascar, which we dont have here in the UK. So you can go to America and do Nascar but you could never come back over here. This is entirely up to you but I would think it would be easier to try and get into F1 than it would be to go all the way to America to try and get into Nascar.
So if you want to be an F1 driver, are you already part of a karting league? If not then you need to be! The majority of drivers start out in a go-karting league, and then scouts will pick out the best at major races (just as a football scout would do). You are already a bit old to be starting karting (unless you already have) because most kids that are serious about becoming a racing driver start around 13. So get into it ASAP (unless you already are)!
You just need to practice and practice your driving in the go-karts, thats the only way to get better. You need to be putting all your spare time into it if you want to succeed. 90% of kids that drive in the karting leagues will never even make it as a racing driver, and even fewer will make it into F1. To get into F1 you have to be the best in the country, look how many British drivers are currently in F1 - only 2 (I think!). So you need to be ready to put 110% into this dream - you have to be more determined and ready to give up everything in your life for your dream.
I know it seems like all you want to do is be a racing driver but throwing away your education is not the answer. You need something to fall back on in life - there are no guarantees that you will make it out of the Karting leagues. So speak to your teachers and get that interview sorted for sixth form - it cant hurt just to go to an interview can it!
Have you thought about becoming a racing engineer? IF you love cars and you want to be part of the F1/racing world then becoming an engineer is a great way to do it, each team has a massive group of mechanics and engineers who work on the cars. They get to travel the world too, and have one of the most exciting jobs possible! But you need a degree (and A levels) to be an engineer - physics, chemistry and maths would be preferable for your A levels if this is something you think you would like to do.
Even if you still just want to race cars, then you still need an education as back up. While you may not feel you are academically minded, there will be some subjects you are better at than others. What did you do well in at GCSE? what was slightly less boring than the others? Pick 3 subjects you hated slightly less than the others and go with them. It is important today to have A levels, GCSE's are not enough to give you a good future.
Or have you thought about an apprenticeship? this may be another option for you if you really dont want to stay in education. Mechanics will often take on apprentices - this might be something you enjoy. Speak to your teachers about it and they will point you in the right direction.
With regards to this girl, you will get over her in time. it is just a crush and it will pass! You will see some other girl soon wearing a nice dress and you will like her and forget all about this older woman! You wont fall in love with her dont worry, you cant be in love with someone unless you are in a relationship with them (or are very close to them i.e. you spend lots of time together) so by the sounds of it this will never happen!
Try not to worry about girls too much and if you really want to be a racing driver then focus all your energy on that, you will soon find you have no time for girls!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, xxbaybeegal +, writes (24 June 2009):
 Go for the racing dream. If you really really love if your parents will just have to understand that it's your personal goal and what you want to do when your older. Your future isn't in their hands and they can't decide everything for you.
And about the girl. Well your going to have to find some way of forgetting her because you already know the harsh reality of it. You're never going to be with her. She's got a boyfriend that she's probably in love with and it's not up to you to go and destroy it. Just try and find another girl because you've already said that you know she will never be yours.
Good Luckk -xxBBG
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