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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:i was seeing someone i really liked for about three weeks, i felt something was not right in relationship, i started to feel insecure, and he told me he had no job, rubbish car and said he was not ready for a relationship, we sorted this out and he finally got a job.anyway last week, he told me he was seeing some friends and he never texted me all evening, i looked at his facebook and seen a comment he was meeting two women for the eve, the night before he lead me to beleive he had had threesomes, then said he had lied.he finally texted me the follwoing day, and i said i had seen his facebook, and he said they were school friends, and dint like being checked on.the follwoing week, i had noticed he had joined the dating site i was on looking for long term, i asked him nicely, "are we just friend" as your on a dating site looking for long term, he replied he didnt know what i was on about, and that he wanted a relationship with me and i was all he wanted. i was ok with this,then the follwoing eve, by coincidence he emailed a friend of mine, offering his mobile number and saying was looking for someone to spend his life with.i told him i knew about it and told him to leave me alone, he became defencsive and blaming me saying he knew it was a trick and he was playing games to get me back.after a few texts explaining the situation to and from each other, {few nasty} i told him i had feelings for him and he hurt me, he became very caring (all this by text) and texting me day and night for the next three days as he is working away this week. he texted me first and when i did not reply the texts carried on. i was happy we were talking again.then today after hearing from him first thing and lunch time, he texts on his way home and says, He thinks we should call it a day and we cant change what has happened, and he hope i find someone else that will make me happy. i have not replied.can anyone tell me what this man is about and why after i admitted i had feelings he was keen, now changed his mind. what is going on??i thought we had sorted everything out
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (7 May 2010):
 He sounds very mixed up to be honest and best avoided! I don't think you should waste your time analysing his mind, he is a lost cause and you are best rid. When you met him he didn't have anything that suggested a stable lifestyle - job, car etc. He has shown himself to be untrustworthy and the fact you feel the need to check on him on dating sites and facebook means deep-down you will never trust him. Life is too short but I suspect dating sites are full of mixed up people so perhaps you should be looking for a long-term partner in your local community rather than these websites.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): maybe you should investigate more about him to check if he is really trustworthy .
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