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female
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anonymous
writes:I've started seeing this guy and so far he's really nice and things are great. But there is one problem...he is very shy when it comes to physical contact. When we're making out I like it when guys touch my body all over and he doesnt really do anything with his hands. He's deffinetly into what i do though cause he always has an errection and i've given him a few hand jobs. How can i get him to recipitate without seeming really rude or offending him?
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reader, JDinCali  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Teach him :) Maybe, give him a massage on routine. Then ask for a trade, you might not even have to ask by then. After feeling what you're doing, he'll be able to mimic your touch and feel more comfortable about it.
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reader, Ayan Ganguly  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Talk to him about it...share your part of the story with him and mutually try to draw a solution to it.
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reader, missmatador +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Dear Anon,
It is nice to hear that a guy is reluctant to enter the arena of sexual contact. It could be that he is inexperienced or is wary of how you might enjoy being touched.
There is no shame in asking or guiding his hands to where you want them to be, in fact, he might enjoy you taking control.
Just be supportive and confident and don't be critical if it takes him a while to get the hang of it!
I'm sure he will come around!
Good luck!
xx
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reader, Htsn47 +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Ask him. :) I was/am still very inexperienced and I really appreciate it when my wife helps me make her feel good. Maybe he's just being respectful, or isn't reading your signs. Tell him, or just guide his hands. He'll get the idea. I can't imagine how he would think you were being rude!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Maybe he is just inexperienced and he does not know what to do, therefore he does nothing. You don't need to be rude about it all you need to do is to guide him, when you both are getting physical again just guide his hands and tell him where you liked to be touched, his confidence will soon grow.
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