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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys im reaaly worried. Well a couple months ago my bf was getting way to friendly with this girl but it all was by email (his bestfriend told me some thing was up and gave me the password to my bfs email) normaly i would not of checked it but he said there was some thing i needed to see. and i found nude pics and stuff i confronted him about about it (he does have some mentel issiues he recently started taking meds for and things got better) I told him that if he messes up one more time im gone for good it would really break my heart though i cant imagaine my life with out him and he understood and did a complete change but he thinks i found out cuz the girl emailed it to me and this was a month or 2 ago. and i wint to check on it today and it said password changed 23 hours ago he is going today to stay a week with his friend who told me and he doesnt trust him. Is it harmless? or does it mean he could be back to his old ways? should i ask for the new password? btw he knows ALL of my passwords and is free to check when ever he wants but he used to hide his from me. and i wont leave him cuz i really do love him i just want to be positive nothing is happening. thank you for your time. Reply to this Question
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reader, missmatador  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Dear Anon,The worst thing about love is that it is hard to accept that someone you hold so dear has the potential to hurt you. It sounds like you two have a great many trust issues lingering in your relationship spawning from one time when he was dishonest. It is up to you both to talk about how you feel and avoid playing games with one another as that will simply feed your lack of trust in each other.You must be open and honest with him and ask that he do the same in return: Say that you are worried about him changing his password, that you are concerned that you don't have the same amount of trust in him as you used to but that you want that feeling of security back.If he cannot compromise then it is up to you to decide your own self worth. Are you better than someone who won't compromise his security temporarily so as to make you feel more secure? My guess is, I think you are.You are in a tough place but remember that honesty is the best policy.Regards, Pippaxxx
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Yes you should be concerned. You could ask him for his password but there's no guarantee he'll give it to you. You could also show up where ever it is that he went for a week. Tell him you decided to join him for a mini-vacation. I'd be very suspicious.
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