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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionboth except he hasnt talked to me in like 2 weeks after i told him that i was getting tired of being stood up(after 3 nights in a row) so he came over and havent heard from him since... and idk what to say to him???? he always is the one to start things
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reader, rivi  +, writes (19 June 2010):
More answers or more awesome sex with the friend ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx everyone for your help and your answers. can't wait for more
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 I'm glad things seem to be working for you. Just be careful not to get hurt!
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionya when we first started having sex i got the implant inserted which has multiple pluses!!! and we still use condoms too.
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reader, rivi +, writes (15 June 2010):
Well there you go then - just take plenty of precautions with pill and condoms and enjoy !
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you. i like that answer because part of me likes it this way because i have awsome sex without all the ties of a relationship i kinda like the freedom!
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reader, rivi +, writes (15 June 2010):
Don-t give up what you-ve got in hope of perfection knocking on the door......
Stop worrying about not making him orgasm with oral : clearly he is enjoying the sex otherwise he wouldn-t be coming round for more all the time.
And you are enjoying the sex too right ? *Awesome* you call it :
So why give that up just because the relationship is not perfect ? It might progress over time to more of what you want. It might not:
Meanwhile you should be free - and tell hi, so - to date other boys and see if any of them offers you more than he does.
It-s all useful experience : and Awesome Sex is not to be lightly discarded !
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you! you have been of a very big help. and i am trying to bring up the courage to talk to him and trying to figure out what to say
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (11 June 2010):
Your best option is to confront him. If he refuses to be in a relationship with you then stop having sex and move on. I know it's hard but the more you keep allowing this the more it will hurt.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe thinks that if he lets anyone get close then they always get hurt. this has even posed problems in the bedroom because he is so afraid of hurting me. if i get a bruise he freaks out. I want to talk to him but don't no where to start. I no that our relationship is not healthy and i want to fix it. I was like his first true girlfreind... before me he only dated girls for there looks. But we both were eachothers first time and haven't had sex with anyone else. He once told me that he tried but just couldn't do it.
He also has had 1 girlfreind after me. He dated her 2 days after breaking up with me and his brother told me that he only dated her because he new if he didn't he would never move on.
sometimes when he comes over i tell him im tired of being his whore and he tells me not to feel that way because im not. we are more than that. I have also asked him why he comes back to me and shows up at my window. He said he wasn't quite sure. and ive asked him why he just doesnt just get a different girl and his answer was that they just aren't you.....
Im really confused and don't no where to go from here
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (9 June 2010):
If he broke up with you for that then he needs some professional help. He has not healed from his Mother's death making him very insecure and not a healthy person.
Though it confuses me why he blames himself and seems to think you are better off without him. Does he really think that not being in a relationship with you will prevent you from getting hurt? Or is it more he does not want to be close to someone then have them get hurt?
Still, I think you should talk to him and stop having sex. Sex is not only physical but it effects you emotionally too. If he is not ready for a relationship then you need to just be friends. This will save you from worst pain in the future.
I know it hurts and it is not easy. First before anything talk with him.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe broke up with me when my entire family was in a car accident. He has always had love issues because i've known him all my life. His mom died a few years ago when she fell down the stairs and her body had a bad reaction with the pain medicine she was percribed. So when we were in the accident he was really upset because everything he loves gets hurt or dies. His best freind told me that he did it because he thought it would be better for me. and he didn't want me to get hurt
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (9 June 2010):
I'm sorry hon but you cannot lose something that is not there. You are not in a relationship with him. You are nothing more then a fuck buddy.
Forgive me for being so blunt but you sound like a sweetie and it troubles me to have you be used this way.
Please confront him! If he loves you like he claims then he should have no problem getting back together with you. Until then please stop having sex!
Also there is something I didn't ask in the previous answer. Why did he break up with you?
Good Luck!
I wish you all the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your help but i can't help but say yes when he calls because i still love him, i try to move on but can't, im stuck in this rut... i don't really want to face loosing him
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (6 June 2010):
So...let me try to understand this....
Your boyfriend broke up with you. Making him your ex. Yet he still comes over for sex because he loves you. I'm guessing you are still not in a relationship and he is still you ex.
This problem needs to be fixed now. You need to confront him.
My advice is that you ask him if he wants to be in a relationship with you again? If not what does he want? I would not be friends with benefits because that is just using you and you will never be in a relationship if it continues. (Which is what you are right now...friends with benefits.)
Stop having sex with him or anything sexual (no kisses either) until you are in a relationship with him.
Now, as for spicing up the bedroom. Some guys can not cum during oral. Ask him if he ever did before and what happened to make him cum. Try new things...different positions, places...be sly and seduce him. Once you are in a relationship with him.
Good Luck!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (6 June 2010):
 Stupid question, but you know you're just his booty call right?
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