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writes:I am a 28yr old female and I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 years and I love her very much but we don't have sex or make love because I don't have the urge. I really want to make love to my girlfriend but I don't have sexual feelings in my mind. There is days when I can be sitting there just thinking of have sex with numerous women, including my girlfriend, but when it comes to the moment I feel nervous and most of the time I don't get turned on, not even in the libido area but its not because i'm not attracted to my girlfriend because I love her very much and really want to have sex with her but can't ? I think I need to go to my G.P. but I don't know how to explain it ?
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reader, red1982 +, writes (19 November 2007):
Relate (marriage guidance people) have a psycho-sexual therapist who will work with both of you as a couple to resolve a sexual problem.
Have you talked to your girlfriend about this problem? If you haven't then please do as she will probably be feeling bad about the lack of intimacy and think she has done something wrong which will put a strain on your relatioship.
There are loads of reasons why women lose their sex drive and the therapist will work with you with ways to get it back.
I really hope that you can work this out as you obviously love your girlfriend very much.
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (19 November 2007):
 hi, its not your gp you need to talk to, find out the number of your sexual health clinic (they do coils, smears and sexual health etc), make an appointment to see the therepist, she will have heard it all before and may have some suggestions for you. please dont feel embarrased, we all go through it xxxx
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