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*rownroyale23
writes:i befriended a work collegue who confided in me he was a cross dressser. he and i became close and during my turbulent marriage, we would go out to clubs as friends. he never dressed in drag during our outings. the only time i saw him in drag prior to our romance was on halloween, where it is "okay" to do so in public. my husband i ended up seperating and my friend suggested we hang out. he let me know he would be dressed in drag this particular night. our first romantic occurance happened on this night, he in full drag.weve now been together for 1 year and he has been very open about his cross dressing. i have been very supportive, because he has allowed me to be me and i want to allow him, to be him.this is what concerns me. he has straight porn, however he has she-male porn, dildos, breast forms, lots of jpegs from sites on his computer that are of she-males. he has a designated chest of drawers and closet for his girl clothes. lately however, he has not shared much. i know he orders clothing from catalogues and wears women's lingerie when im not around, because i see the empty packages and his panties in the hamper.he was seeing a therapist who specializes in transgendered people as well as a transgenered life coach. but has since stopped, due to financial setbacks he has had.we have discussed operative surgeries and he has never indicated in anyway that he would be interested in being a post op tranny, however the fact that he has chosen these kinds of therapists concern me. the she-male stuff does too. if we see drag queens or trannies out and about, he gets very interested. i kind of feel jealous!i wonder if he is a time bomb ready to go off.i love him and i support his cross dressing, however i could not bear to take this relationship any further if he would want to be a full time woman. any advice is appreciated,stacy
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 I know you have talked already, but the key to this relationship is keep talking, his feelings may have changed since the last time you spoke. its great that you support him, but I dont think you should entertain ideas of a long term relationship with him. e is more confused than you are right now and he has to work out what he wants.
be his friend more than anything else and keep right on talking. it will give you the answers you need and help him address the issues he has.
the right man is out there for you, he isnt it but he can be a lifelong friend.
take care hunny xxxx
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