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writes:I know this sounds stupid but I don't know how to explain that I love my boyfriend! he has like a hard time feeling loved cuz his mom killed herself and he's just always felt like she didn't care so now he just has a hard time feeling someone cares... he asked me today "explain how you love me" but I told him that I don't feel you can explain emotions and that they all have names but words can't explain how one feels. what should I tell him cuz he hasn't texted me since and I think he's hurt. what should I tell him? he's my everything and he knows I'd do anything for him and I've shown him nothing but genuine kindness and I thought he knew I loved him but now I don't know what to do or say!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso I just told him my heart & he says he doesn't feel the same.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 Hun just say what you've written there.you love him because you'd do anything for him you love him because he is your everything.he's the first thing you think of he's the one you care for the most.and just say there are so many ways to describe it that you can't just pick one.the only real way to explain how you love someone is how they make you feel.hope this helps :)x ilovebowsandcherries xmessage me you want to talk further. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): I love you Poster. I love the way you write, I love your grammar and you punctuation. You are truely, a good poster. I am so thrilled to be involved in your post because i feel this aura from you.. an aura of kindness and generosity, and i've never felt that about any other poster. I love the way you spell things and I love the meaing behind your words. When i'm not around this post, reading what you have written, everything goes by so slowly because being here, reading your post is all that I can think about and all that is important to me. No other poster can replace you, no other post can show up your post. I feel closer and more connected to you than to any other poster on this entire site. I truely Love you. I hope you understand. this is hard for me to explain, because there is so much dept to the way I feel about you, but I am doing my best. Just don't ever doubt my love for you because even when i can't come up with the right words, it's only because i get tongue tied around you sometimes. You just do that to me at times and it's an amazing feeling. I can't imagine answering to any other poster but you.
Take care and goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): When I was a kid, I didn't see my dad much and my mom worked a lot (she was a single mom, trying to make a living). I spent a lot of time with my uncle. I adored him, I thought he was the coolest person in the world. He'd often tell me he was "always there for me", and I believed him, and I needed him. When I was 12, he committed suicide. I was crushed, and I felt abandoned. I still tend to ask my boyfriend (of nearly three years) questions like the one you're discussing. I've talked to him about it (he even came to a counseling session with me to talk about it), and explained I only do it when I'm feeling vulnerable. I'm afraid I'll loose him. My best advice to you is just to keep making him feel loved. Do what you can to make him feel important. If you can get him to talk about how he feels, in relation to you or his mom's death, listen. If he says something when he's clearly emotional, don't worry too much about it. The best way to show him you love him is to express your love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): When I was a kid, I didn't see my dad much and my mom worked a lot (she was a single mom, trying to make a living). I spent a lot of time with my uncle. I adored him, I thought he was the coolest person in the world. He'd often tell me he was "always there for me", and I believed him, and I needed him. When I was 12, he committed suicide. I was crushed, and I felt abandoned. I still tend to ask my boyfriend (of nearly three years) questions like the one you're discussing. I've talked to him about it (he even came to a counseling session with me to talk about it), and explained I only do it when I'm feeling vulnerable. I'm afraid I'll loose him. My best advice to you is just to keep making him feel loved. Do what you can to make him feel important. If you can get him to talk about how he feels, in relation to you or his mom's death, listen. If he says something when he's clearly emotional
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reader, Lillydoll90 +, writes (27 July 2009):
Just say "I love you" remind him of the day you first felt you loved him. Tell him how much he means to you. Is true some people do now how you feel about them but is still nice to hear the feeling being worded as best as you can. And there's nothing wrong with saying "you mean so much to me is unexplainable.
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reader, citris +, writes (27 July 2009):
 I agree with you that love is something that is beyond words. However if your boyfriend is uncertain of your feelings, and needs reassurance from you, a good way would be to think of it from his perspective. I'm sure he just wants to know that there is someone there who, even if they lost everything else in their life, he would be the one reason left for them to keep going. If he is your everything, explain this to him as best you can. Let him know that with him in your life, you feel like you can live through anything, he's your reason for getting up in the morning. I wish you the best of luck.
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