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anonymous
writes:I'm really mad. I was seeing this 40 year old man child for 5 months. He tells me he really likes me, sees us together but needed time to get himself together after a break up. He wasn't married or engaged to this woman. This guy would only call me on weekends and see me once a week. We only had sex 3 times. Mind you, people look at us in awe because I'm much younger so you would think he would want to do it more often. Everytime I would tell him I needed to end things due to the lack of progression, he would find a way to pull me back onto his emotional roller coaster. Well, I've just about had it! After not seeing him for 3 weeks, I asked him to get together for a friendly after work drink. He says, lol, as a response. WTF response is that?! Its yes or no. I responded, that's not an answer. He never wrote back. I feel like putting him in his place and tell him to never call me. What should I do? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2011): Talk to him and give him an ultimatum. It's impossible to tell what "lol" means. It must be interpreted into the proper context.
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (23 September 2011):
 Hello,
He was going through the loss of a relationship. He had sex with you a few times then simply moved on. You contact him after 3 weeks and he simply can't believe you would still think things were on. So lol means, "do us a favour, this has long been over."
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 September 2011):
 You called him a man-child, why would you even wanna date such a not-hot mess?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 September 2011):
 no need to put him in his place. He's made it clear by his lack of contact where you stand in his life.
just ignore him and move on....
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (23 September 2011):
 Lol...hmmm, lets see now. It could mean more than one thing, but all roads lead to the same conclusion. He's an ass.
It could mean that he's saying, oh so after giving me all that attitude you want to talk now after 3 weeks? ya,RIGHT! lol!
Or it could mean, oh yeah, Look who's throwing herself at me now! cant stay away from me,can ya?! lol!!
Or, it could mean, you're kidding right! You actually think I'm going to respond to you?! lol!
Whichever way, he's an idiot and the best response to him is no response at all. He doesn't deserve even a single glance from you in future.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (23 September 2011):
 I agree with idoneitagain. lol is an answer, I think it means " lol,I am laughing because ... friendly drink, yeah right . We both know what you really want, babe- another taste of my beautiful, ahem, body ".
This guy is pathetic, ignore him,don't waste one more text on him.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (23 September 2011):
 Exactly as idoneitagain said, he responded with 'lol' because after three weeks of no contact and in spite of his childish games, he finds it funny that you're still interested in seeing him. He's obviously being dismissive and immature, why bother wasting another minute just to tell him you don't want to speak to him?
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (23 September 2011):
Lol is an answer. It means I am laughing at you because I am quite obviously not interested in you, so it is funny that you want to try and get together for a drink after I haven't contacted you for 3 weeks. If I had wanted to get together with you I would have asked you.
In other words, the answer is no. This guy doesn't like you. You deserve better, same as we all do. Find someone who you like and who treats you well.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (23 September 2011):
 LOL?!?!!? might as well not even respond. Go get a younger hotter guy and ignore him from now on. I guess I'm not the only one who magnetizes jerks lol and seriously, at 40 years old come on. He probably broke up with that girl and just uses the situation as an excuse. I just had a guy go silent on me and I am matching his silence with silence. Dont' chase him. He knows now that u like him so move on and forget Mr. LOL
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (23 September 2011):
 Say nothing and just walk away. After 3 weeks of no contact I would have considered it over anyway.
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