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writes:I've been seeing this guy for about the past 7 weeks or so, and I really like him. We're exclusive but not official,but if he was to ask me out, I'd say yes in a heartbeat... but that's besides the point. Anyway, the thing is before I met him I had never even kissed anyone before, so everything we've been doing has been pretty new to me. We haven't gotten very far, he's managed to get my top off and that's about it, but when we're making out I over think things and kind of ruin the moment for myself... like when we start kissing it's amazing and I want to continue but then as things progress I start worrying about how I SHOULD be feeling or what I SHOULD be doing or if I'm doing it WRONG so by the end he's completely turned on but I'm fizzled out through my over worrying! I suppose what I'm wondering is how I can STOP worrying and get as equally turned on as he is, or if you think this is just something that will come in time because I'm so inexperienced?
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reader, babyghost +, writes (19 January 2011):
ok, what calms you down? one thing i tried with my first boyfriend only a year ago and it worked for me was that i looked into his eyes and took deep breath. If you really like / love this guy then try not to think about how you should be feeling, think how you are feeling, loose yourself in the moment. If that doesnt work, try the eye and breathing thing or another place you relax - even get him to give you a back massage see if that helps.
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