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writes:Im 15 and really confused. i never have boyfriends enymore and it puts me on a all time low. Plus to make it worse i have never properly snogged a boy.All my friends have and they have done other things too. i gt scared when i get attention from boys too what shall i do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): ahh dn't worry your time will come around. i remember i was about 13/14 wyhen i first snogged someone and i use to be the same. try to relax around lads, they might be able to sence that you are nervouse around them. you will be ok thought. just give it time and the more experiance you get the more confident you will feel, i was really quite, im ok now thought.
at least your not just giveing yourself away to anyone thought. i duid at one point because i felt like i couldn't say no so i put there feelings before my own and let them take advatage of me, now i think why on earth did i do that for.
so you should think at least you have never been used by lads, and now you dn't have to now you have heard someone else say it..you will be fine in the end thought.
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reader, lovehate +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Uncle sneaker is correct, take his advice.
'Pulling' or 'snogging' really isn't what it's cracked up to be if it's with someone just for the sake of doing it.
You have got to really like someone for it to be special, that's the point. So don't worry i know how it feels to be the last to do something. I'm 16 so not much older than you! I know the pressures depress you and make you feel upset sometimes but in the long run all this stuff is actually rather dissapointing!! Snogging or pulling or whatever is not what it's cracked up to be.
Dont Worry.
Mail me if you want to ask something private, i can relate to it remember.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (27 July 2008):
 Snogging isn't all it's cracked up to be. Neither, for that matter, is sex - although I know that wasn't your question, and quite rightly too.
Don't get stressed about it. I'll tell you what IS very much better than snogging (or sex) with one of those boys you see every day - snogging with that one person you'll find eventually (or, more likely, will find you) and who will want to spend the rest of his life with you. Now THAT, I promise you, is a most wonderful experience - and all those others you might have snogged before (whether or not you actually did), are no more appealing than cardboard cut-outs after that.
He's worth waiting for. Don't rush it. You don't need to rush it. When he comes alone, you'll know. And even if it's not the perfect one first time when you meet one of the possibilities - and there may be a few possibilities because there's probably not just one "right one for you" in the world - then you won't be scared or nervous. It will all happen perfectly naturally. Just be patient.
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (27 July 2008):
 Just because your friends are doing things doesn't mean that you have to be doing them too.
You are just not ready yet for a boyfriend, and there is nothing wrong with that. It might also be possible that you just haven't met the right boy - and after all, who wants to snog the wrong boy? Yuk!
Being nervous is perfectly normal, and as you grow you will naturally find yourself getting more confident at dealing with attention. It might sound odd, but some of the girls who seem to have lots of boyfriends and are doing lots of things are doing so because they are also bad at dealing with the attention but they need to learn how to say no sometimes too.
Take your time, and when the right boy comes along at the right time for you, you will find a lot of your nerves and fears just vanish and snogging will happen almost all by itself.
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