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*aylee kristen
writes:I'm currently in a relationship with my 23year old 2nd cousin and he is going into the military and I don't know how to react to that. we have had sex many times and that makes it even worse because I won't get to see him yet I want him more and more by the minute.
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reader, Nor3d3mption +, writes (10 August 2010):
i am currently going into the air force, and am also dating my 2nd cousin. From a guys point of view the military is a sense of pride and something that many men need in their lives to prove something to either someone or themselves. I applaud you for staying with him while he's in because that is one of the biggest challenges people can make relationship wise. Not being able to see your companion for months maybe at a time is hard. But the love that comes out of it is amazing.
I love my 2nd cousin no doubt about it I would fight for her through anything. No one can understand what im talking about unless it happens to them. Its not illegal, or incest. It states so in the bible. And in genetics, random people who are not related what so ever have a 2-3 percent chance of having babies with birth defects. People who are related have a 4-6 percent chance. What a BIG difference.
In the case of dealing with your man in the military, I strongly urge you to stay with him and even though times may be tough, I promise you, the love that both of you will share after will be insane haha, and in the case of 2nd cousins, do what you wanna do, do not let anyone even family tell you otherwise. No one and nothing can break apart true love!
GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS, let your man know how proud you are of him, he'l love that :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 August 2010):
 I think as long as you guys are smart and do some genetic counseling before marriage you should be ok.
2nd are perfectly legal in the US.
2nd cousins can be pretty far removed genetically, and sometimes they are "cousins" through marriages or adoptions, so there's nothing weird or wrong about it.
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reader, jaylee kristen +, writes (3 August 2010):
jaylee kristen is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yes there are genetic illnesses but its more likely with 1st cousins. Also,I want to marry him.
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reader, jaylee kristen +, writes (3 August 2010):
jaylee kristen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all those who wrote to me.
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reader, jaylee kristen +, writes (3 August 2010):
jaylee kristen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou can't help it if you like your cousin you can't sit there and tell me that you haven't thought your cousin was attractive at all and you can't just walk away from love...
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (30 July 2010):
 did anybody catch the part where she says that this is her 2nd cousin??? I mean eww
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reader, rivi +, writes (30 July 2010):
Erm..... are you planning to marry him ?
Aren't there lots of genetic illnesses which arise in the case of children of cousins ?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 July 2010):
You can join websites like www.armywivesforum.com LOTS of nice military wives, fiancee and girlfriends on there.
They can help you with question you may have or just give a shoulder when needed.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 July 2010):
I think the best thing you can do is to search for support groups for army wives and girlfriends. We have a few in Britain, and they allow wives and girlfriends of army personnel to mix with each other. Maybe they have a few in the US, where you could be friends with people like yourself. That may offer comfort to you.
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