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writes:Hi...Okay this is going to sound proper weird but recently we got a new science teacher for chemistry... me and my bf are in the same class and he said he is good at chemistry because he has chemists in his family.Thing is we met in science like a year and a bit ago and liked each other ect..Since then we have had a few science teachers but now we have this new one... she scares me because I can barely understand her she picks on random people to answer questions and I sit at the front, because I panic and don't know the answer sometimes I don't want to make a fool out of myself infront of my bf...I am terrified of her and I want to run out of her class...How do I get over this?!?!? please help why do I have to be in the same class as my bf in my worst subjectstupid I know but please help thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345  +, writes (8 December 2012):
 Then learn the answers! Ask your boyfriend for help studying if you think he's that good. Everyone feels anxious when they're called on, but once you start answering correctly, you start to feel more confident and wanting to learn more so you can answer correctly more. It's a nice loop. You are not the only one in your class who worries she won't know the answers, when she calls on other people, pay attention, I'm certain they are cowering too. You just have to study more and it will get easier. If you can't understand her, ask her to repeat the question. You also need to learn how to relax a bit under pressure. I'm guessing when she calls on you your mind immediately goes totally blank with fear. You need to learn to first take a few slow deep breaths to relax, then think of the answer. Also keep your book open on whatever she's talking about at the time so if she randomly starts asking, you know what she's talking about. This is a good confidence building exercise for you!
As for inherited science, it's no guarantee. It depends on the context. Chemists in his family probably wouldn't impact him at all unless he was genuinely interested. He wouldn't pick it up unless he grew up with it in his face all the time. Parents, yes he would probably absorb that. My parents are scientists so I grew up completely immersed in their subject and I do have a very strong affinity for it. However, my first cousins and other close relatives never picked it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2012): You can tell your boyfriend how you feel about this, I'm sure he will understand and not think bad of you over this. Also after class finishes, just pull the teacher to one side and express your concerns with her about this too. Teachers jobs aren't to embarrass kids in front of everyone, but they put people on the spot like that to keep you all on your toes and see how much you actually pay attention to what's being taught.
Other than that, all anyone can suggest is to study harder on that subject so you feel more confident and comfortable with it.
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reader, Agneta  +, writes (8 December 2012):
 Study harder so that you know the answers. But, maybe more important, be good at what you really like. If you don't really like chemistry very much, but love another subject, go for that other. The thing is that most people are attracted to people who gets into things they really like. It makes you happier and with that more attractive. He will probably not care so much if you are good at chemistry or not, but will love your energy spent on things you do like.
But chemistry is not a bad thing to have a clue about either :).
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 December 2012):
 Well, lame answer, maybe, yet...do all you can to know the answers. Try harder, study harder, pay more attention,take more notes, - if chemistry is your worst class, it does not have to stay like this, school after all is just for improving our competences in areas we don't know that well.
Don't worry about your bf, I think if he likes you, surely that's not because of your scientific knowledges .
As for an inherited inclination for chemistry, .. I wish it was true !, but I have chemists in my family too and at school I always struggled with scientific subjects.
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