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writes: hi i am so stressed and soon i am going to live with my boyfriend without my parents knowing about us. i got lots of things in my mind such as courseworks, money, living, parents etc. im worried that i might have a breakdown soon. plz help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 October 2009):
Are you sure you want to move in with him so early? If you can't afford it, or if you have other specific commitments at this time (coursework), then maybe you should focus on that. You don't want to move in and find out it's too expensive. That said, you need to approach each problem serarately, rather than look atall of them at once. You're going to have to tell your parents, so start there. Sit down with them, even with your boyfriend, and say you're moving out. You have to start there first. When you've told them, work on the other problems, again focusing on the ones that are more serious than the others. But really think about whether this is the time to do it.
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reader, robinp93401  +, writes (22 October 2009):
That's a lot of stuff all at once to have to deal with. You need to stop burying your head in the sand (I also do this) and take action. You need to tell your parents what you're doing. I know this probably seems impossible for you, but you have to. However, before you tell them, sit down and write everything down (with your boyfriend if necessary). Write a budget for your money situation, school, homework, work, everything. If you do this and then approach your parents they should be more at ease knowing that you have a plan and have seriously thought everything through. I think that the pressure of telling or not telling your parents your plans to move in with your boyfriend have paralyzed you. Have some faith in them and yourself. You can do it!
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