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writes:I have long waist length beautiful healthy hair. But the trouble is that i dont like them at all. I want to get them cut short because i like hair better that way. My mother apparantly doesnot understand me and she does not even let me do the trimming. I dont want to become rupenzul so i have been trimming my hair to avoid split ends regularly but i want them really short. How do i convince her?Plz im desperate to get rid of my hair Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): Ah, she wants you to be her little girl forever, but she will have to understand that you are your own person now. I say go to the hairdressers yourself and have your hair cut.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): I know exactly how you and TheRain feel about growing long hair. I just went through a similar thing with my husband. My hair, when it was long, gave me terrible headaches, and took forever to wash and dry, and all I could do was put it up in a ponytail all the time. I told my husband he may like long hair on his wife, but he wasn't the one taking care of it and dealing with it every day. I finally had my hair cut, and it feels great. I felt so silly being almost 40 with a ponytail all the time like a 12 year old. Now, I feel sophisticated and pretty. Mind, this is how I feel about Mine, not anyone else's hair.
My hair is too thick to hold chignons, plus that wouldn't negate the massive headaches long hair gave me.
Maybe speak to your mum about caring for your hair, and headaches, if you get them from your hair. The charity idea is great, too.
I wish long hair was not considered so feminine.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (15 May 2012):
Why not just go out and do it? Go to a salon during break from school and get your hair cut. My parents were horrified when I cut my then hip length hair to a layered bob, but in the end it's my hair and my decision.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Can't you simply have an unfortunate incident involved chewing gum which tangles in your hair so badly there's no choice but to cut it off? Or 'mistake' your hair removal cream for your hair conditioner and accidentally melt it off? Singe it off (carefully, you don't want to cause burns to your skin) with a curling or flat iron that is on too high and applied to the hair for too long?
You can then weep and wail and cry as if you dreadfully miss your long hair, just to convince your mother you really didn't intend to do damage to it. Then ask sweetly to go to a good hair salon so they can 'fix' the cut and give you something that makes you look better while it 'grows out.'
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2012): Thanx cindycares...but really i have had enough. It has been like this for like 5 years.And it is not a cultural or a religious thing. She just is not in favour of short hair whereas i am in absolute love with them.And the other thing is with me it is not a matter of turning 18 or 20. I have to obey my mother till i get married . And i cant wait till then.Obeying our parents is a religious priority but really this time i am tired.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Call me crazy, but I am with your mom. A beautiful, healthy, shiny head of waist length hair is a wonderful sight, a privileged exception, a small miracle to be grateful for :). It goes beyond fads and fashions, and to me does not tell Rapunzel, tells Lady Godiva :). So, if I were your mom I would be a little sick to my heart too, knowing that you want to trade this bounty for some lackluster pixie cut.
Said that- hang in there, when you are eighteen you can do what you want, and in the meantime, wear them up in all kinds of chignons - ( braided, unbraided, loose, tight, with combs, without )- it's practical yet sleek and sophisticated.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Here in the US there are places that take donated hair to make wigs for cancer victims. If you have something like that in the UK, maybe that will help convince her being a worthy cause and all.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Why is your mom not letting you cut your hair? Is it a religious thing?
worst thing that will happen is when you are an adult (at age 18) you can do what you want...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 May 2012):
 I have to ask if this is a cultural thing for your mom? Or if she just wants you to have long hair?
If it's not cultural, I would tell her the full head of hair needs to go. You could start out small and go get some layers in that will lighten up the load a lot. Try and negotiate a length with your mom.
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