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*hinachik
writes:I am finding this emotion so hard to cope with and feel as if this is the only thing bad in my relationship with a wonderful man. I love him very much, and he has said he loves me too and thinks about me all the time.I have been in a 5month relationship with a 40year old RAF chap (I am 38)who lives on base about an hour away. Times just seem to have no meaning for him, which I understand, but it is hard to take. I feel him pulling away and always feel so empty when it happens. He always comes back to me, and we are in touch by text, but he does close himself off and dosen't say anything much and is cordial. I'm always trying to get him to meet up- even if its just for a few hours, but he dosen't make firm plans and keeps it vaugue, I know sometimes its the job, but surely it can't be all the time? I know he loves me and I love him- and we do communicate, but I just want to be able to get through some intense negative feelings that I have that are unfounded. I don't know much about his family and surroundings, and he is hesitant to show me for some reason.Would appreciate some advice on this to understand the situation?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 Are you sure this man loves you? Him keeping his family very private and hardly making an effort shows different am afraid. You cant keep living like this, it will only tear you up to pieces. Explain to him that you want to be more involved in his life and meet his family. If that doesnt go down well with him then to me it sounds like its a lost cause. If you are in love with someone you want to share everything with them, and this just doesn sound like the case at al.
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