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writes:I had sex for the first time with my girlfriend (and ever) a few days ago. It was so bad even I had to admit that to myself, and it was my fault. It was really clumsy among other things. Should I just ask her what makes her aroused or should I just try out things to see what she likes. If so can anyone give me some pointers? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dr T  +, writes (8 May 2007):
Just as the others said..doing anything for the first time is hard & alas you cant really have someone with you to tell you what to do!! 8-)
Relax, relax and relax. Talk to her, tell her what youre thinking so its not such a big deal. Sex is meant to be FUN! As with anything when youre enjoying yourself you will want to and will become better at it with practise. Better meaning more relaxed and happy to be there!!
Youll be fine, everyones first is a bit nerve racking...youve entered the wonderful world of sex so be safe and ENJOY IT!! Its great!
Dr T
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (8 May 2007):
 Hey sweetness,
First times are ALWAYS clumsy and a little awkward. The sex will get better, I promise you. Now that the ice has been broken, you can have a little more fun. Make sure that you both are talking to each other and enjoying yourselves. Even if things aren't exactly going perfectly like in the movies, it can still be a lot of fun. Throw on some music, and have fun experimenting with each other. Try out some stuff AND ask her what she enjoys. Remember to reeelllaaaxxx... just have fun. Who cares if it doesn't work perfectly?
It's a two way street. In this case (safe) practice makes perfect!
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, Rikki  +, writes (8 May 2007):
Dont worry at all..Be relax..Behave normally with her..So when you have another chance...Just think of giving alot of pleasure to her...BUT you should forget everything in the world other than sex at that time....Forgot the past...If you want to do well you will definately do it..But main thing is no tension
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reader, nailglitter18  +, writes (8 May 2007):
 Well, frankly, first times tend to be more than a little clumsy. It's new territory for both of you. It's not just about the result, it's also about the journey. You'd be surprised how many 'clumsy' stories couples have hidden under their hats regarding sex. I know my boyfriend and I have more than a few, but we use them to learn and grow, and they're a good story to get a laugh when we're feeling down. :P
My favorite line is "teach me how" - depending on your girlfriend and yourself, you could be artistic, and say "Teach me how to help you fly" or something a little more down to earth.
I always like it when you start at the front, tease a little, and work your way back with your fingers. Start gentle, and get stronger. Listen to her and feel for her body's reactions, and work with that. Once she's really into it, you can move on to the dirty stuff. ;)
Most importantly, HAVE FUN! The more tense you are, the harder it'll be. Remember- this is something we've been doing since the beginning of time. It's in our instincts.
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