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writes:how can i get more confidence and make friends, i always feel uncomfortable around people because i have no confidence because i have no confidence .
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (25 August 2009):
Been there, done that. Its all about experience, the more you do it, the easier it will become. Those first few times will be as scary as hell but eventually the fear will disappear. All you need is an opening line (it doesnt have to be great) to pretend you arent scared. The more scared you look, the smaller your chances. Also, keep the topic simple. Avoid opening lines that have one word responses because they might not turn into conversation (ive looked like an idiot a few times because of this). For some people, if its obvious you want a conversation (rather than asking a question) they will help out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): I get the sense you lack self confidence. Are you overcoming some childhood trauma, or are you just naturally shy?
It seems like you are awkward in social situations, meeting new people. Here's a little trick...
When meeting new people interview them. Ask them where they live, grew up, went to school, do in leisure time, where they have vacationed, where they want to vacation, what food they like, where they dine out, do they like sports... etc...
You can interject pieces of yourself into the conversation topic by topic. You'll also find out quickly if this person you met would make a good friend.
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reader, urbanking99 +, writes (24 August 2009):
This is a question that could have so many different answers. In my personal opinion and from what I have experienced in the last couple of years (for me anyway) it is simply believing in yourself and what you can do. Of course it also helps that you have a target or a goal in life to which you can aim. Disregard any negative feelings you may have, and especially those of your family whose negative thoughts can feed directly into you.Become your own person, live your own life and decide you want to meet people. If you see someone in the street you like or maybe interested in as a partner. Chat to them and just go from there, but make sure you do get an e-mail or a telephone number from them. I made the mistake a few weeks ago of chatting to someone I met and thought "WOW", but foolishly never got an e-mail or contact number and now I have to search the USA for this woman! You would think I would know better at my age but we can always learn. I wish you every success.
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