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writes:My girlfriend and I were having trouble at the end of summer and so she started distancing herself and hanging out more with her friends. At the end, she said she wasn't sure if she was in love with me, and I told her after two years together, I didn't know if I could be with someone who wasn't in love with me. So, I broke up with her, but after hurting so bad for 2 days(i know but i love her that much) I told her how I felt. She said she had a date that day. Some guy (who I later find out she liked towards the end of our relationship), but that night she called me crying saying she had made the biggest mistake of her life and I said she could come over and I forgave her. The next morning(5 hrs later, she stayed late) she was supposed to come over and when she did she said she wasn't sure again. ANd she liked that guys, I think she wanted to try something with him. I basically told her to leave. So, I started hurting while she seemed ok, anyway I called her asking for closure like two days later. I wanted her to say she wasn't in love wiht me anymore. She said she didn't know. I had told her I could never be in a relationship with her again. A few days later (yesterday) I told her I was still in love with her and She didn't know how I could trust her again and she said she liked this new guys a lot. She's supposed to choose who she wants today but I feel like an idiot if she picks me and I take her back. I mean she liked some guys while we were dating (for 2 yrs) and who's to say she won't fall for him again. THey go to school together and take classes together. ALso, she never asked for me, it was always me asking for her back. I just wish I could convince myself there's someone else for she. I mean I love just about everything about her but after this if feels like I don't know her at all. Also, how could I ever trust her again? Should I even try or i'm i setting myself up for more heartbreak? Also, the guys she like she hated a yr ago and has "apparently" only liked recently so how disturbed should I be that its such a hard decision? She says he's no rebound. Also as our relationship ended, she didn't seem that hurt, which also disturbs me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): She probably screwed the other guy.At the very least, she seems to want you to hold it against her like she did. She is testing you and you are failing to draw the line about what you will put up with from her. Big time failing.
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reader, Sphronas +, writes (24 August 2009):
 My impression is that she is confused at the moment and doesn't really know what she wants. As long as you keep taking the initiative and pressuring her, she will not be able to find out what she wants and you will never know how she really feels. You should probably leave her alone for a while to give her time to come to her own decision. If she chooses you at some point in the future, you will have to decide whether you still want her.
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reader, labi  +, writes (24 August 2009):
i think u should let her go because(from what you explained)i think she never really love dyou that much and you loved her to a fault.Besides how are you sure she wont leave you again? Forget her.
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