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*itris
writes:The last time I fell for a "friend" it was a fabulous relationship, but the ending was horrid and even though we both would have liked to have stayed friends in the long term it just couldn't work. Now It's the same thing all over again-different guy. Not exactly the same thing, he's alot more...how can I say this right?...rational and thought out, than the other guy. I trust him, but don't know how I can trust that if this doesn't work out in the long run or things end badly, that we will be able to reconcile our friendship and not allow it to affect all our mutual friends. Any advice would be great! Just want this to be the most adult situation it can be so there's no extra dramatics. Reply to this Question
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reader, citris +, writes (16 January 2008):
citris is verified as being by the original poster of the question tomorrow night he is coming over for dinner and we are going to have "the talk" i'm a bit nervous, however it needs to be done and some things said and I know he's more chicken than I am so this is it. thanks!
wish me luck!
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reader, uhhhhey +, writes (24 December 2007):
 It might not be the most comfortable conversation, but since this an important issue to you, I think you and your boyfriend should talk about what would happen and try to prevent anything awkward. If you guys were true, good friends to one another before the romance there shouldn't be much of a problem. However, guys are very emotional and often not able to think logically about breaking up and being friends again because they're heartbroken and men tend to think with their hearts and have a heart time getting over the pain of a failed relationship. Most choose to move on all together. But each break up and relationship is individual because everybody's different. I believe you could reconcile your friendship if you stay positive and give the wounds time to heal.
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