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writes:I'm in a semi-long distance relationship(80 miles), we've been together for almost 2 years. I'm torn from a couple issues. We met on a dating site, she was married and that was in her profile. We began chatting and finally did a meet, in fact a couple times. She came down here the first time and I went up there the second meet, there was no sex. Then we took a vacation together. I knew how she talked she wasn't happy in her marriage. Her husband found out and told her to move in with me for a while and see what she really wanted.While she was here her father fell ill and she missed the rest of her family since they all live up there. She went back after a week, but continued to see me with her husband's knowledge. Her and her husband are starting divorce procedures, she's going to get the house, but owes money on that and almost everything else. She has asked me on several occasions if I would move in with her. My house is paid for and I have no debt and truth be known, the area where I live is much nicer. I told her she should move down here, but she doesn't want to. Okay, another issue is she got a new job a few months ago and has made a bunch of friends, women and men. I don't care so much about going out with the girls, but what does bother me is guys she works with taking her out to lunch and driving her home from parties.I doubt she would jump in the sack right away with some guy since she demanded I got an std screening before we could have sex, she was a nurse.So I'm torn, should I move in with her and let my house set? There is no way I want to sell the house, I got it for cheap before the real estate bubble and now the market is coming back down.And really, I feel the house is my safety net since I don't have a ton of money invested anywhere else. I really do like where I'm living now, I'm right off the coast and have a great fishing pier 2 miles from my house. Comments please, thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): I think you have reason to be concerned. If she started dating you while married than what she did to her husband shes bound to do to you. probably not the advice you want but I think its best to move on.
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reader, rockelle +, writes (24 December 2007):
 I hate to say it but if you and this women have plans to be together then there are going to have to be some sacrifices on both parts. It is not fair to either of you to sacrifice everything while the other doesn't have to. Maybe you and her should sit down and have a long talk and figure out a way to compromise. Maybe you could rent your house if you wanted to move near her do a month to month or six month lease? There has to be a way that is fair for both of you, I hope it works out.
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