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30-35,
*uss67
writes:my girlfriend and i have been going out for 6 months yesterday. we are very much in love with each other. about a month ago we were making out and i made my way into her pants and began to finger her. she really enjoyed it and when i asked later is she was ok with that, like it wasn't too fast she, she said that it was ok and she really liked it. so on valentines day i showered her with a stuffed animal dog, box of chocolates, i made her a cd of romantic songs, and got her a card and wrote how much i love her and some very personal things. later on that day i treated her to dinner at a romantic resturant. she was having a wonderful time and we went back to her place. her parenst were gone for the week so things were getting hot and heavy. i went to and finger her again but she pushed me away. i didnt push it and i went on like it was nothing. but i wanted to approach her to make sure everythings ok without it sounding like all im after is "getting some". how can i ask her if we can move onto that level without it sounding like im a pervert or only out for ass?
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reader, Ileana  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Ask her nicely, just bring it up. Ask is everything alright and if she says theres not, reassure her by saying something like,you know you can always tell me and ill still love you, then give her a kiss. Be nice to her. Do stuff that doesnt end in sex, take her to a movie or just cuddle her.Maybe she was having a 'girly week'Love Iileyanaxx
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Just ask her if she is ok and if she feels ready to, dont just say we are going to have sex, or we are going to have sex or im leaving. And if she says no, then respect that and wait a while meaning a few months and ask again or wait for her to decide on her own. Just remember NO means NO!!!!!
You wouldnt want to be pressured yourself, i know how it feels to be pressured for sex, my ex had sex before i was with her often, and with the same guy, thus she craved it and was pressuring me to do it. I never gave in even if it was tempting sometimes.
But did you ever think that she could of been on her period, a friend of mine started on valantines day, and she has been kind of hateful since then. And that makes females feel kind of dirty and thus she may not whant you to touch her like that if that is the case.
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