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writes:How can you tell if someone in the service industry (waitress, operator/secretary, etc.) is into you or just doing their job happily? How can you tell in person or talking over the phone? What can you ask to determine if that person is into you, without being rude? Or is it potentially sexy to be rude? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the answers, these were really good!
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reader, Ileana  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Okay, a fact for you. Alot of women especially those who work for tips, are nice for that reason. However, alot of women are just generally lovely, have you ever tried talking to one? Not about her work?Smileing is a big sign also lots of eye contact. Girls play with their hair alot. Try looking if shes trying to catch your eye as she walks away.Over the phone is a little harder, even i wouldnt beable to tell over the phone and ive got a sensitive eye for flirting.Just look for signs and make conversation, offer to buy a drink or go for lunch or dinner.Good LuckIileyanaxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): Well I used to be a waitress and I never really put on a show for anybody and I rarely did my job happily and cheerily. That's kind of fake. I was just myself. And working sunday brunch is no fun after being out all saturday night! And of course I would sometimes wait on boys who I liked. You can just tell because she will hold a stare at you a bit longer. She will make eye contact with you more than other people at the table. She might smile and flirt with you a little bit. You might notice her talking to the other waiters about you, in "secret." Stuff like that. The way you can tell the difference between someone who genuinely likes you and some fake person hoping her fake "charm" will get her more tips, is just that one is overly "confident" and way too nice and cheery (u-huh, nobody is like that. Just fake to a tee) and the other is very subtle and genuine and nice, not too friendly but nice.Usually guys who like me write their numbers on their checks. One guy left me his number on his friends business card. Or just talk to her and ask her out even if she is fake. Cause the truth is that if she is fake you will never really be able to tell if she likes you anyways.
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