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writes: i dont know what to do my fella says he wants to always be with me can never see his life with out me...but hes changed so much ...yes when we first got together he was selfish and and didnt care bout what he said to people..well i hurt someone tuff they dont have to speak to me again is his opinion..but hes got so much wourse now we bin together 3 years and im the last to know about anything he dosent show he cares about mme never says he loves me always out works as many hours as he can and works weekends goes away every 2 mths with his mates leaves me behind..i love him to bit or i should say i love the man i first was with that first year was out of this world but now i dunno im confused help me please...used and abused Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you athaliaorg..keith.. for responding to my question your answer is very true and i suppose i new that all along but being very needy and insercure i tend to let things go on and on befor i do anything about it....i love him so much he was so nice the first year we was together but...money wise i want for nothing he pays for everything but we just dont spend real time together we dont have sex very often 1 in 2-3 mths .....i know what i should do but doing it is hard but befor i give in i would realy love some one to tell him what hes gonna loose and that they would give anything to have a misses like me im so loving and effectionat and all i want is to be loved back and looked after emotionaly but thank you for taking the time to read and reply xxx
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reader, Moviefan  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 There are things majorly wrong with this relationship thus you should try to fix these by talking to him and telling him how you behavior makes you feel. And if he doesnt change his behavior for the better long term then you are best to move on. Find someone else. He is playing the guilt card by saying that he cant see life without you, you cant tell me you wouldnt feel guilty leaving him after he said that, and that is the purpose of it a lot of times, not always.
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reader, Athaliaorg  +, writes (16 February 2008):
Hi my name is Keith. I am a "shrink" and I advise people for a living and actually get paid hundreds of dollars per hour for it. I am spending a lot time on the net giving free help so here goes. Firstly I will say to you any man that does not show that he cares or loves you probably doesnt. When a man loves his car, he washes it, our first toys are our private parts and any man will tell you that is the part we wash the most, protect the most and would never want to lose the most! My advise to you is you should put him in a position that will force him to either beg you to stay or let you go. What ever happens and what ever he does or does not do, "trust me" girl YOU WIN! Learn a lesson in life dear, if a guy shows you bad character at the begginning of your relationship believe me that is just the top layer of a deep problem! What is happenning now is he now feels he knows you and has you now so he can now be himself and act out who he has always been. My pure advise is leave him and get your self a good man! YOu are a woman, God made you a jewel to be treasured by the any man in whose hands you place your self in, if this man is not treating you right trust me there are a million guys out there who will give and a legjust to breathe the same as you.
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