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writes:I'm black and every week I come across a video or article that commentators summarize as "black people are savage, Africans are worthless and the worst thing on the planet". I want to know how other black people find positivity in a world that hates them and also which sites do they go on to avoid racism Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2015): The world can be a tough place, but it's not only for blacks, it's tough for many other people as well.
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (16 November 2015):
I lived in Los Angeles at the time of the Rodney King riots. Listening to callers on talk radio, I was amazed and saddened to hear so many black people believing that whites were talking bad of them behind their backs, frequently using the "N word."As a white guy active in business and social circles, I can say that I haven't heard a conversation disparaging blacks for years. I might hear the N word once a year at most, which creates a moment that makes me back away from that person and wonder how little education and empathy they must have. Being racist has become super uncool, at least here in L.A. Both our Clippers and Lakers are coached by blacks and have predominantly black players...and the whites idolize them just as much as if they were white. We've elected a black president in our last two elections.I'm with SageOldGuy1465...I read a variety of articles in magazines, newspapers and on the internet but never run into anything racist...I just don't see this stuff. I don't see how you could run into such comments every week unless you are specifically looking for them or live in a country outside the USA that espouses such things. Perhaps you could provide us with some links to where this is going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2015): My advice to you would be to book mark every racist site on the net and then to consider suing these people for rascist content.It would be a tedious job but someone has to do it.Also you could start a petition online highlighting that people do not want to view racist content and you probably will get over a quarter million of signatures in a day.As you are still young you have plenty of time to do this but bookmark every site on a back up hard drive that cant be mysteriously deleted so that you dont have the miserable task of doing the whole thing again.Positivity is within you.Music is a good medium of positivity and good vibed and there is plenty of that on the net.You could do a comparative study of music versus racist material.By the time you finish that you will probably have your masters degree.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2015): The worst people are also the LOUDEST.
There are more good people than bad out there. Find good people to be around, and be positive and thankful - that will bring even more good things into your life.
I feel sorry for racists and cruel people. They are not happy with their lives. They will always be limited, miserable and lacking in love. Don't feel sorry for yourself - feel sorry for them. It sucks to be them!
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reader, haveiafuture  +, writes (3 November 2015):
Hi I can related to your experience.
Being a person of mixed raced (my father's ancestor were Welsh and my mom was originally from Taiwan), I probably experience it worse than you. I did not feel like I belonged to either group. I used to be bullied by the other girls even from kindergarten, and that did not help.
Like me, I guess you have an introverted person? When I was young, I was a bookish and studious person who read a lot about the "world" instead of experiencing the world. This led to a skew perspective of society. I used to Google about racism and was often dismayed by what I found.
You know what, if you search for anything hard enough, you will surely find it. For every evidence of racism you find on the internet, you would find twenty eveidence of the opposite. Except you did not search for it.
Well there is no denying that racism does exist. For me, I guess there might be the problem of the "bamboo ceiling". There are seldom people of Asian origin holding high positions in western countries. Yet there are such people. This has made me sthrive hard to push myself to see how far I can go. I realized that as I grew older in school, my classmates who used to bully me come to respect me. Even become my best friends. It is natural for people to be apprehensive towards something they find alien.
Stay strong my friend :-)
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reader, Leykis101 +, writes (25 October 2015):
 Im white, Irish, and the only time I feel funny or weird around black people is when it's made a deal that im around black people, outside of that, I dont feel any different then I do around anyone else, you know why, cause the powers that be want us to hate each other and fight, if it's never taught then we dont know it, and on a normal day, I dont even think that im around black people, of course I notice they are black, but I notice oriental, and mexicans, but never do I feel different or odd around them, they are just like white people, only black, right? sounds dumb, but it's true, I dont know that we have any different anything, seems like we are all the same, just different culture, nothing more, so I think if you go looking for hatred towards your race you'll find it, any race will, the thing to do, be the most upstanding, respectful, educated, warm, and cordial person you can be, be someone everyone wants to be around, then I swear to you, it wont matter what color you are, you will be much sought after.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (24 October 2015):
Also I just had to add that followtheblackrabbit posted a really great answer. Her attitude is fantastic and one I think we all can learn from.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (24 October 2015):
Like with all things, there isn't a place where you're completely safe from encountering what you want to avoid. The best you can do is keep your head up and try not to give attention to those who spread racism. If people stop paying attention to them, or at least if it feels as if people don't pay as much attention to them, they'll lose their platform.
Tumblr is a pretty good social media site when it comes to these things. Unfortunately it also has what I call "social justice crusaders" who have gone overboard on the other end of the spectrum by simply calling everything they come across racist, but you can use the tumblr savior browser extension to block them. I use tumblr savior to weed out any content I don't like, which means I now mostly get stuff that interests me. Anyway, it's an idea.
Try to surround yourself with positive people and try not to pay too much attention to the media outlets. My grandma always said: do not fret over things you cannot change. It might be cynical, but following that advice does help make your life less stressful. (Also she's a concentration camp survivor so she probably knows what she's talking about.)
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (23 October 2015):
 I gotta tell you, I went through a lot of tough things because of my race. To this day, they still hurt. I couldn't change my race anymore than I could change the sky but that didn't matter to the cruel, ignorant people I came across. What helped was meeting WONDERFUL people who became my friends and couldn't care less. These people would have accepted me polka-dotted with three heads. But also, bear with me here, I had to learn that I was just fine. I'm not perfect but there's nothing wrong with me. I feel sorry for people who let prejudices affect them, that's a shallow life with few opportunities for joy cause how can you feel truly happy when you've got constant hate in your heart? The love of my life is a man from a different race and he admitted that he too had to learn to see people as they are, not what any propaganda tries to preach. Yeah, sometimes it may seem as though everyone is hating you, watching you with suspicious eyes but move on. This one lady gave me the evil eye while I was out with my man and I saw her lips mouth the word "unbelievable" we were just sitting together at a restaurant. I caught her eye, smiled and she looked away. I paid for her drink and left that night without worrying about what the heck she thought. I WAS happy. Find your own thing, make your own world if you need to. Surround yourself with good people so even if 99% of the world doesn't like you, who cares? 1% does :) I'm sorry you saw such crap, it's disheartening but stay away from lest it makes you bitter. Read a few books by Alice Walker if you can, find other inspiring black authors and leaders (please not Al Sharpton) and find pride in your people. Keep strong, be well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2015): I am a black female... if I wanted, I could find a TON of media on the internet that would be racist or sexist (or both) towards me. But I have a pretty easy time avoiding it to be honest.
I am very happy, feel a lot of self worth, and aside from the typical ignorance of the media (almost always on the internet), rarely come across actual instances of racism.
How do I find positivity in a world that seems to hate black people? First of all, the world doesn't hate black people. I'm sorry you feel that way, but I assure you that is not the case. Are black people treated differently? YES- sometimes-absolutely! But that is starting to die out and, perhaps I am fortunate, I have no experienced it. I have been very successful in my career as a black female.
It sounds like you need a confidence boost. It sounds like you need to find the worth in yourself before you expect other people to find worth in you- regardless of your race.
Surround yourself by good people. Diverse people, open people, intelligent people.
Good luck,
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2015): All races can read or hear negative hate about their race, especially in today's world of trolls and wicked people who thrive off evil and darkness. I could sit hear and say the same, I am british could say I have been insulted left right and centre by different races and cultures. It's people and as we know there are plenty ugly human beings in this world who don't like anything or anyone. I can't say i like you just because you are black, i don't know you,it would depend on who you are as a human being that would make me say. There are people who do behave like savages(of all races)these people are the lowest life forms and should be referred to as what they actually are, savages because they behave like savages and live in hate. I don't know what you are reading, could you clarify? I guess that many people don't even see race or skin colour and love individuals for who they are, and don't see dividesI remember when i was a little girl watching a particular tv programme called 'Roots' 1970's The first series won nine Emmys. It was seen by 100 million viewers – among the most watched TV broadcasts of the past 40 years - and its power was characterisation. At such a young age it touched me deeply I cried and cried because i loved the black man and knew he was been treated badly, but never understood why. I never forget the sadness that touched me and today when people are treated the same ( whatever race) i feel the same sadness so please don't think we are all haters because we are not.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 October 2015):
 Ulysses: Where do you live?.... and what media and video do you watch such that you can find this sort of stuff????? I can't remember the last time I saw any such thing.....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2015): I suppose there are good and there are evil people in all the races.However one thing I personally find annoying in general is what is shown in the American tv serials where always the black man is depicted as being the bravest, the smartest, the most honest, the most honorable,whether he be a detective or a soldier or a teacher or even a jailbird. The guy the white beautiful heroine is yearning to sleep with but being stopped by social taboo.I think this kind of characterization harms the black people more than it helps them.They do not need such kind of patronizing.They are smart enough.However my advice to the poster is that; Think positively. we all, no matter what race or color are tend to find excuses for our shortcomings and failures. Don't do that.Try to see your faults and try to fix them. There are some great black men achievers in politics , sports, music,and show business who have given immense pleasure and hope to millions around the world. Think like them.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 October 2015):
 I think black people are beautiful! Don't get swept up in the divisive narrative that people on all sides of the racial and political spectrum use to further their own selfish interests. The world certainly does not hate you. White people don't hate you.
It's just ignorant people out there who hate for hate's sakes, and it's just ignorant politicians and race baiters who like to pick emotional scabs only to lap up the blood, outrage, money, and power that the wound creates.
It's not just you who gets the "world hates black people" lie. White people get fed lies about how black people want to rob them, rape them, kill them, and burn cities to the ground. Seriously. And there are hatemongers on all sides who believe lies like that.
The truth is - there are good and bad people in ever race, gender, and nationality. I'm so sick of hearing about the hate. Don't believe it for a second!
Which sites to avoid racism? I don't know...it's like the racist cockroaches are hard to miss. Best fill your thoughts, friendships, and positivity from within. And know that the EXTREMELY vast majority feel absolutely the opposite about Africans. You are a race to be celebrated and loved, not denigrated or devalued.
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reader, olderthandirt +, writes (23 October 2015):
 Sadly, this world is full of hatred. Hatred exists in many quarters. Usually, haters actually hate something about themselves but focus on some other group or race or whatever. I actually envy a lot about the black race. They have much better skin than whites(as in smooth). Black women are more beautiful than most white women. So on, and so on. So...I'd just focus on the superior qualities of your race and stay away from the hate sites.When I was young the saying I heard a lot was,'Black is Beautiful" don't hear that enough now days though.
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