A
female
age
36-40,
*uperconfused88
writes:My bf and I have been hitting a few rough patches in our long distance relationship. I have been flirting with the idea of breaking up, but am finding it extremely difficult. Every time I tell him I want to end it, I wish I hadn't. Yet every time I tell him I want to stay with him, I wish I didn't. How can I stop being so indecisive and just make up my mind??
View related questions:
flirt, long distance Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, superconfused88 +, writes (7 March 2009):
superconfused88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for your answers! :)
A
female
reader, k_c100  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 You need to think about what makes you want to be with him, and then what makes you want to leave him. Make a list and see which comes out on top.
But in my experience, when you try and break up with someone a couple of times it is a sign that something isnt right. If you feel deep down that the relationship has come to an end and that you cant see it going anywhere then you probably should end it. But if you can see a future together then work on it, put in the time and effort to try and sort it out. Talk to your boyfriend - explain why you are unhappy and get him to talk about his feelings to. You might find that you are both feeling the same and maybe you can move forwards - or decide to go your seperate ways.
But if you do decide to end it, make sure you are clear it is final. Collect any of your stuff that he has, give him back his things and then try not to contact him for a while. Once you have had your space and allowed yourself time to miss him, then you will start to move on.
I hope this helps!
...............................
A
male
reader, vmadman  +, writes (6 March 2009):
Make a list, pros and cons.
Unfortunately we're all the victim of emotions, which cloud our judgement. Make a list, spend hours on it, and make up your mind.
If you spend enough time on the list then you can be sure the choice you made is correct, which will give you increased willpower to give him the answer, either way. Be strong and stick with your decision. Remember that making a wrong decision is a learning experience, and each time you close a door another door opens.
You'll have plenty of time in your life to make up for the bad decisions, and will make less of them as time goes on.
l.c.
...............................
|
