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writes:Hi people. I have a bit of a problem and was wondering if anyone could give me any advice on how to approach the situation. You see, the thing is that my fiancee's Mum shamelessly flirts with me. When my fiancee is around she doesn't do it so blatantly, just little things that my fiancee thinks is her Mum just being a bit cheeky in a fun way. My fiancee's Mum lives about 80 miles away from us, so when we go to visit it's usually for a weekend. My fiancee will go out for a couple of hours to catch up with some of her old friends and that's when the shameless flirting begins. I won't deny that she looks superb for her age but it's really uncomfortable for me. I hide away in the spare room now so I don't have to put up with anything. The worst case came when I went to the toilet and her Mum was just coming out of the bathroom wearing a towel and the towel 'accidently' fell off. I used the toilet and went back to the spare room. I have to walk past her Mum's room to get to it and the door was wide open and she was stood there naked. She said that I had seen her naked now so what's the point in covering up? I went back to the spare room and locked the door just in case. She didn't try to get in or anything which was good. Now, my fiancee has booked time off work so we can visit her Mum for a WEEK! I don't know what to do. If I start making excuses why I can't go then she will know something is wrong. What do I do? She's just going to keep doing it!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (6 March 2009):
 you've had some good advise here just don't do this: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-caught-my-mum-and-my-boyfriend-having.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): It's bound to cause a rift between mother and daughter if you tell your fiance about it, so personally I wouldn't say anything to her. On the other hand, blood is thicker than water, so your fiance would probably believe her mother if she denied everything and put it down to a figment of your imagination.
I suspect mother is just checking out whether or not she's still attractive to the opposite sex, or she could simply be testing you to see how faithful you are to her daughter and if you're likely to be tempted to stray.
If I were you I'd make light of it if she flashes you again. Tell her she's got a great figure and thank her for brightening up your day - which will no doubt brighten hers up as well - but tell her that seeing her in that state makes you feel rather uncomfortable, and now that you've seen her in all her glory there's no need for her to show you again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): You need to get ur girlfriend to start taking this situation seriously, my goodness i cant believe someone would behave like that, its ridiculous. I take it she has no man on the scene? This could cause serious problems with ur relationship if it isnt sorted. Make a stand, refuse to go until ur gf starts to take this seriously. The woman obviously has no shame.
Take Care xx
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reader, Auntie Stoned  +, writes (6 March 2009):
Tell your fiance about her Mom behaviour and stop going there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): You have to bring it up to your husband. Plain and simple.
My wife has a similar experience with my sister-in-law, who got a little drunk and a little frisky on the jet ski.
The first thing my wife did was tell me, and I introduced a subtle mention to my sister-in-law within a day or two.
My wife's comfort level is something I am willing to protect, and your husband should feel the same way.
L.C.
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