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writes:My husband and I fought over something stupid on Mother's Day...we have not talked to each other about our child since then. On Monday our son had his last soccer game. We all went and some man held the door open for us as he was going out. I said thank you and I heard my husband say from behind me. "Why do u just suck his cock too" I almost fell over I couldn't believe this. Things similar to this has happened throughout our relationship. But this just has stuck in my head all week and I can't get over it. At times I feel like I'm hyperventilating and I can't breath or think. How can someone say this to someone they love?! And what am I supposed to do.if my husband thinks of me in this way? Please any advice is helpful. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, IAMDONE +, writes (14 May 2011):
What a rude and terrible thing for a man to say to his wife. Where is the respect and love? I am certainly confused here as to why a jerk would say such a thing to his wife. Do you always allow him to talk to you this way?It is time that you step up and let your husband know just in case he may not know that there is certainly a way that a man talks to his wife that yields respect for his wife, love for his wife, as well as self respect for himself. Let him know that what he said made you feel uncomfortable, hurt, and his remarks left you feeling unloved. It is important for this jerk to underdstand that you will not tollerate in the future such rude and unnecessary remarks that create so many uncomfortable feelings for you.If he does not understand this...ask him how he would feel if some man talked to his mother like that who was labeled as her husband. That shoulld be an eye opener for him!Men just as women say things in the heat of an argument, but letting a man know that you are unhappy and not going to continue to allow him to talk to you in such a fashion might very well be the wake up call that he needs.Do not let things get you so worked up because it can cause you to face health issues. Let him know what you are feeling and let us pray this will be the last of his rude, disrespectful, and unnecessary outburst!!!
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (14 May 2011):
Your husband hits below the belt - spouses who can't or won't fight fair, greatly contribute to the destruction of their marriages. (but if you are also like that back at him then you can't complain).
If he wanted to continue fighting with you, he should have confronted you like a real man would (or rather as a responsible adult would), not be muttering snide cut-down remarks behind you, that's just cowardly.
It's also IMO unacceptable for your husband to have made that obscene snipe when your kid was present
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reader, Sparta +, writes (13 May 2011):
 I have to say his words are overtly and irrevocably disrespectful. But you have to talk to him about this; find out what is causing these outbursts of jealousy, anger, and judgement. Atleast that's what I get from the words he used. Any person with manners would say thankyou to anyone who done something simple and kind as the gentlemen had. Maybe your husband has some issues with you speaking to other men in general. If you do not speak with him and get your feelings out on this matter; things can only go downhill from there. I really hope the best for you. Best of luck.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 You dont tell us what your fight was about - however silly it was your husband was hurt and this is why he lashed out at you with that nasty comment. It was uncalled for however he wanted to hurt you like you have hurt him.
You and your husband need to sit down and talk about what is happening in your marriage - if you find it difficult find a marriage counsellor to assist.
This is an issue that has to be addressed not swept under the rug and forgotten about.
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reader, zcgby678  +, writes (13 May 2011):
Your husband (wrongly) feels you put other men before him. His ego is bruised by something as insignificant as you commenting on a handsome, rock hard model on tv. He feels he is not man enough for you so he has grown bitter and is irrationally taking it out on you. I hope you have not told him of your past conquers. That will add to his humiliation.
My advice is to treat him like there is no other man in the world who could satisfy your every need except him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 May 2011):
 Talk to your husband. (After your son is in bed.) Sit him down and talk to him. You two need to communicate. You can't hide your heads in the sand or sweep the "drama" under the rug.. Life doesn't work that way.. At least not for long.
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