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*laMich88
writes:My boyfreind and I have sex very often but I honestly wouldn't even call it that. Anytime we do have sex there is never any foreplay involved unless its me going down on him and as soon as he gets his "guy" in.....he "Cums" really quick. Within a minute were done!! This has been ongoing for quite some time now and I'm really frustrated! No matter the different postions we try, he still "cums" very Quickly and I feel that he only cares about himself climaxing. It feels like a "quicky" for Him and I don't know what to do anymore. We have been together for almost 4 years and at first things were great. He would go down on me and spend a lot of time on me but for a long time now I can't even remember the last time he touched me like that. Half the time I'm sleeping and he wakes me up for some "middle of the night booty" and is done by the time I open my eyes. Last night I got on top of him and Bam! He was done before I could count to ten and this is really bothering me. Any advice please? Q= Why is he Cuming So quickly? Is it me? Do I repulse him and he jut wants to get it over with? Is his mind somewhere else? What's the friggin deal!? I posted a Question before this one about why my boyfreind is buying porn magazines and DVDs and Hiding them from me. Why does he Feel the need to go behind my back and look at those girls and lie to me about buying them. Does that have anything to do with him not being able to last long? I'm in dire need of answers...I'm 21 he is almost 29...is it the age thing? Please help me!
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (27 January 2010):
Honey its your sex life too. U should be allowed to cum too.the fact that he seems unwilling to see to it that you get off as well tells me that maybe he isn't that concerned. Its pointless to carry on with him unless he can please you. Its funny how when sex is is good its just one small part of a relationship but when it goes sour it becomes everything.
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reader, AlaMich88 +, writes (27 January 2010):
AlaMich88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I have sat him down and talked about this. Numerous of times. Calmly telling him that he needs to pleasure me as much as I pleasure him but he still hasent changed. He says he can't help it when he comes so quick, that its my fault he cums so quick. I did cut off oral on him for a long time in hopes he would go down on me but never does. And I have also cut off sex but when we would finally have sex he came even faster and said it was because we hadn't had sex in a while so I'm feeling that it is a lose lose situation. So I don't know what else to do. Sex is def. Not the same as when we first got together and I'm out of ways to change that. How do I tell him I'm bored with sex without being a bitch? He says I sound bossy when I tell him he needs to pleasure me and spend some time on me for once so, then he doesn't. Ya know.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (26 January 2010):
You gotta sit him down and tell him that he is not pleasing you sexually. If he cares for you he will listen. Being able to get the girl you love to orgasm is a must. If he loves you he will hear your cry. Tell him your not a blow up doll and that you need to cum just as much as he needs to. And don't take any excuses. Maybe even consider cutting him off if he acts unwilling to put more effort into it.
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reader, Faraday  +, writes (26 January 2010):
 He doesn't last long BECAUSE of the magazines - wankers rarely do! He is training himself to cum quickly with his furtive use of porn, to get things over quickly before being discovered.
His paper women have no need of respect and intimacy, so he feels that you shouldn't need it either.
Unless he respects your needs and takes time to consider your pleasure, like a real man would, do you really need him?
He is using you as a "hole in the mattress", an assisted wank!
Does he know where the door is?
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