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anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend 2 years, we just had a fight 3 days ago and he has not communicated by phone, email or text since, and he doesn't answer his phone when I call. I don't know if he's alive or dead. Now I know a lot of people will be saying give him time to cool off, but you know I think a day is enough,and I did keep my distance for a whole 24 hours so we could both cool off, but you can't treat people like he treats me. He has done it before, it was for a whole week tha ttime.My sister's boyfriend does not do it to her, my brother does not do it to his wife and my best friend's husband does not do it to her.We are talking about getting married - how can you treat someone that you plan to take on as a life partner like this?
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (21 March 2012):
 He owes you money, plans to come over to pay you then decides to go away with a friend?...Hmmm are you sure he even cares about you? He then goes off radar for a week and doesn't even let you know he's ok?
Why do you want to marry this guy?
Love?
If he treats you like this now, how's it going to be after you get married?
I think you need to rethink the whole thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): well some people believe that if you're married, that 'seals the deal' meaning you're now committed to be with them forever no matter what they do. That's why they can treat you like this. that's certainly the attitude my husband of 13 years has always had, which is why I'm planning to get divorced.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): "We are talking about getting married - how can you treat someone that you plan to take on as a life partner like this?"
You can't. That's why you shouldn't marry him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2012): Hi Danielepew
The fight was about him not doing things he said he would do, as he knows this is something that bothers me. So he said (and we agreed on this,I didn't force him or nag him)he would be coming over and bringing with him money that he owes me, the when I called because he had made no arrangments yet he said he was going to away for the weekend with his friend and would make it another time.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 March 2012):
 What was the fight about?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 March 2012):
 Clearly if your bf has done this before it's how HE deals with it.
IF you don't agree with this way of dealing with it you must discuss it with him and let him know that it's not working for you.
IF you can't compromise on how you deal with conflict so that both of you are happy and have your needs met, you may not be compatible in the long run.
Would you want to consider couples therapy to work on communication skills?
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