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writes:Hello all, Your views would be most welcome. My boyfreind of a year and a half has aloways had a bit of a short temper. Not with me, as I have backed off and he has finally started commting and become gentle , attentive and kind to me, but wuth strnagers and driving etc he loses his temper quickly. To cut to the chase , last night he called me saying he had hit the guy that loves downsatirs and the police were coming and could I go round there, I did so, and it turns out he had used a metal mop stick and hit two guys that he syas threatened to kill him, and were taunting him. one had his head cut and the other one had been hit by him on he body for what lasted a couple of minutes. by the time I got there , the police were there, and the guys were so afraid, they were too terrified to press charges and were saying that they had fallen over, head had hit the radiator etc, and when the police left one of them shook my BF;s hand and said he woud not press charges, and was shaking. All throughout this time . i was freaked as my BF stayed calm and was strangely still considering what he had just done. He showed no emotion, and I asked him why he did it and he said ' That;s how you have to deal with these kind of people', and remained very still. When I left the guys were outside, and came up to me pleading and telling me that they wouldnot press charges. I walked away, and this morning when I woke up, I felt physically sick knowing that the man I love has this in him. Am I overeacting? what do to do? think? I am confused. I saw him today and he was as lovely as usual with me. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2012): I would be very concerned, as indeed you are. The fact that your boyfriend could stay very calm during an assault and the aftermath is disturbing. It shows he has little empathy and his actions show a man of aggression who can intimidate people. I would tell him that the whole episode was deeply upsetting to you and that you do not want anything like that to happen again. It may do little good as I should image this is well established behaviour on his part. But just be wary. Do you want an ongoing relationship with someone who can behave in this way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPlease excuse my bad spelling!! I was typing fast and in a rush. Thank you for any answers. x
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