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writes:I really need some help. How can I tell my parents about my bf? I am black and he's white. My parents are totally against dating people of other races and I know they will be mad about this. How should I break the news to them? I am afraid they won't allow it and I really like this guy. Reply to this Question
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Let me tell you about a man in your country who believed in change.
Change - we can believe in the motto of Barack Hussein Obama II
The first African American to be elected President of the United States, Obama was the junior United States Senator from Illinois in 2004 and served until his resignation on November 16, 2008, following his election to the Presidency. His term of office as the forty-fourth U.S. president will begin on January 20, 2009.
Barack Obama was born at the Kapi'olani Medical Center for Women & Children in Honolulu, Hawaii,to Ann Dunham, a White American from Wichita, Kansas of English and Irish descent. Obama's father was Barack Obama, Sr., a Luo from Nyang’oma Kogelo, Nyanza Province, Kenya.
How can I tell my parents about my bf? I bet your parents voted for Obama and if they voted for him, then they believe in change.
How should I break the news to them? How did your president's white mother break the news to her parents that she is in love with a black man from Kenya? If your parents are Republicans then you will have a hard time explaining.
My advice: Since you are 13-15 y.o. and by U.S. legal parlance, a minor, you should not in any way have sexual relations with a boyfriend, be him white or black.
Remember the words of the great Martin Luther King Jr:
"I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character."
I hope your parents do not judge your friend by the color of his skin, but by the content of his character. Yes, girl, tell them that! I have a dream!
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Hey Sweetie,
I think that it's awesome that you are open-minded enough to see past color and care for someone because of who he is inside. I don't agree with your parents, but since you live with them, I don't think it's a good idea to keep secrets from them. Your parents love you and want to protect you, but I say that if this guy is a nice kid and treats you respectfully, then they should give him a chance, regardless of his race. If he treats you right, then it doesn't matter what color he is, in my opinion.
I don't want to offend you or your parents if you are not Christians, but I think the Bible is clear that there is NO difference between the races.
(When all's said and done, virtually all humans are mixed with another "race" after all. :) )
You are right to tell your parents, but perhaps if they could read the answers you've received on this site they would see your side of the situation. Perhaps a pastor or a guidance counselor at school would be willing to have a chat with your parents, and it would help your case.
Do your parents know this boy? Perhaps they could get to know him, and they would understand what you see in him and why he is special to you.
I've always been attracted to latino men. There's nothing wrong with North American men, I just seem to click with latinos, especially Mexicans. My family thought it was weird and that "people are supposed to stay with their own kind."
There's nothing wrong with liking someone of another ethnic group, it just means you're more open minded than most.
I hope that everything works out for you. No matter what happens, eventually, you'll finish high school, and go to university and then you will be free to make your own decisions about whom to date.
Good luck! :)
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reader, huneygyrl +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Interracial dating always have been a problem in today's society.
Are you really close with your parents? Mom? Dad? If you're closer to both parents, even better. If not, have a discussion with the parent you seem to be closer to. Let that parent know how you feel about that special someone in your life. See where the conversation takes you. They maybe upset but if they really care about your interests in life, they should understand.
Good luck!!!
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