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writes:Can you tell some beforehand signs of a player? There's this guy, he has cheated on his last two gfs but is going to counseling and doing a bunch of other things to at least try and change. He likes me and sometimes i dont like him but 80% of the day he's on my mind. Last year i went to a party with a group of friends, including him, another male friend told me that at the party the guy that likes me was trying to get me drunk. I did get exceptionally drunk and I reallly regret it but nothing happened thank god. I dont party anymore but do I assume the worst about him wanting to get me drunk? I'm not sure if it was true cuz it happened last year June and we never really talked about it after. So do I assume the worst about this guy?
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reader, Dazed~Confused  +, writes (19 January 2010):
 Go with your gut.
Sometimes ppl change, but when ppl show you who they really are, believe them.
I think regardless, it would be best to wait until his counseling is done. If he's still going, he still has issues, and you don't need to be drawn into that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): He is definately a player coming from a male point of you, if he has cheated on his last two girlfriends then he is definately going to cheat on you.Its just the way it is, he isnt going to change a cycle of behavior like that, the fact is its not you its him, he probably in fact probably really loved one of his girlfriends that he cheated on but cant bare it so just starts another relationship until the same thing happens.He will change someday and u can try talking to him then but as of now he needs to quit relationships for a while until he can stop his behavior.Dont date him if you dont want to get hurt
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reader, LoviesBrknHeart  +, writes (19 January 2010):
he is a player if he can't help homself and comment on other chicks bodies on tv or in public... if he is always late when u guys make plans or never follows thru with plans for alone time together ... if he is constantly saying things like changing your hair color or about weight... if he doesn't let u borrow hi cell phone to make a call or has to dial the number for u b4 hand... if he changes the subject everytime u wanna question the status of ur relationship or about going further in the relationship.. if he gets jealous over the stupidest shit that has to do with any other guy.. etc. there are a lot of signs.. biggest one is if he cheated in thepast on others he claimed to love b4...
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