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writes:hi everyone! basically i want to buy some sexy outifts/lingerie for myself so that i can bring something new and spice up the sex life.. but im very self conscious and havent let him see me fully naked or anything in the time iv been dating him! im very conscious about my stomach and breasts, bigger stomach, smaller breasts! so i was hoping you could give me some advice on how to dress well and still look sexy though im plus sized. iv looked on ann summers but it seems to be aimed at slimmer people.. haha! i want to feel confident and more importantly i want him to find me sexy! any help appreciated, thanks! x
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reader, Uncle Abe  +, writes (19 January 2010):
Always nice to see a woman who wants to love on her man.
I agree with the lady before me. We men are much less picky about women's bodies than they are. Not to say you shouldn't try to be fit and healthy. That will keep his mind,eyes,hands etc on you when your not in the bed.
But as for actually in the bed. Bottom line. We men (the straight ones) like a woman's body. But we like a little mystery and suggestion and alure too. If you go with anything sheer you should be good to go. We can see what we want and we can almost get to it but there is a little almost covered aspect that is very arousing.
As far as actual positions and themes and toys you two should be able to work all that out over time but just starting I suggest something sheer that you feel comfortable and sexy wearing. Also, if it is something you can keep on while you get started into intercourse so much the better. The arousing foreplay can continue into actual intercourse without a lot of undressing and such. If you aren't very comfortable or experienced with each other or at all, the added time to remove clothing once you've gotten aroused can be a bit of a mood killer and lead to awkward moments. The sheer doesn't have to be skin tight if your not comfortable with it. And remember it isn't clear its sheer he can't see every little line or whatnot (not that his mind will be on that!)
EX. thigh highs and a teddy. heck even a shiny slip can get a man going
if he sees the tops of the thigh highs and no panty line - he can pretty well guess that you're wanting him. And that you will find is the other half of sex. Yes its fun and pleasurable but it is also about the fact that the person you love loves you back and is trying to please and pleasure you. The love part of sex compliments the lust part. Both are needed for a good relationship. And believe me, unlike you there are many women who forgot long ago that the lust was as important as the love.
So rock on and have a good time!
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reader, ilaila +, writes (19 January 2010):
First of all - congrats on keeping things exciting! One of the most important things is confidence and as women we all have our areas that we wish we could change but guys aren't near as critical about us as we are about ourselves so rest easy about that. The more confidence you have in yourself and your sex appeal the better the sex will be for you and him. As far as lingerie...whatever makes you feel sexy. If you're really nervous about it then blindfold him and go from there - Have fun!
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