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writes:I'm kinda new to my area and a few doors down is a married couple, thing is i no her husband is cheating on her, and of what i have seen its been going on for while, they are out together during the day, he comes home at 5,6 in the morning, she drops him off kisses etc. (i'm getting up or leaving for work at this time and for work i go from place to place so i have seen them many times)Thing is i was cheated on a while back and if any one did no i would have been grateful for them to tell me. no one deserves to be cheated on. we have never spoke so i dont want to say oh hello im new to the street by the way your husband is cheating.Has anyone got any kind of idea how i can let her no, and as i says i was cheated on and i would have loved for someone to have to told me, so i didn't waste my time with him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Isabella1974  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 I believe an anonymous letter is the best way to go sweety. His wife deserves to know, possibly they have an open relationship, if so, then the letter will have done no harm whatsoever. I myself would like someone to tell me also, as for people telling you to mind you own business, i understand where they are coming from, but i am looking at it from the wives point of view and he is making a fool of her behind her back. Go with the letter, its your best option. Take care x
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Maybe they have an open marriage, maybe the wife already knows, maybe that's his sister and they are a very close family....it really doesn't matter because it's none of your beeswax. Don't become the noisy neighbor.
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (10 April 2008):
Knock knock, your husbands cheating on you. Flesh it out with a bit of description. Infact, your posting is good enough. You need to stop worrying about how you break the news and do it quick, every day that passes is another day shes living a lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): You have had it done to you, i have had it done to me, but i wouldnt tell. Sorry if that isnt what you want to hear, but i dont think you should get involved. I am glad, looking back that noone told me at the time. Let it go and i am sure he will hang himself. If he is getting dropped off so close to home, then she will find out, but dont let it come from you.
take care
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 I know that you THINK you are doing the right thing, based on what happened to you, and that your heart is in the right place. I would recommend that you don't though, there's a reason that they have sayings like "Don't shoot the messenger" and "bearer of bad news". It usually backfires and you wind up getting blamed for being the one who spilled the beans. One of the ways to be a good neighbor is to sometimes turn a blind eye and mind your p's and q's. A lot of wives know that it's going on and DON'T want to be told, especially if they have children - they are hoping that it will blow over. Telling might force him out in the open and make him make an unplanned, sudden decision, even if he had intended to keep a mistress and keep his family too. If that did happen, you'd probably feel a bit responsible, so it's better to let them sort it out themselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): Write her an anonymous letter and in the middle of the night, put it on her windsheild wipers.
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reader, Deema +, writes (10 April 2008):
 I totally understand your predicament, and it would hurt you more as you know how it feels........... but, for one thing, she may hate you for telling her, she's not the same person you are and you don't know how she'll react, for another quite often the messenger gets shot, and she may accuse you of all sorts of things, and number three, I too know from personal experience that these things ALWAYS come to light in the right time and space so you really have no need to worry. Its their journey, not yours, and unfortunately we cannot fix the world. So sit back with a clear conscience, knowing something much greater than you has already sorted this situation out........ Well thats just my view anyway. Love and blessings.
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