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writes:I am really worried about my best friend. In the last week she has not been allowed out anywhere, and shes not even allowed to come prom shopping. I have tried to ask what is wrong, and she ses something is but she wont say what. so i really dont know what to do, because i dont want to loose ger, or invade her privacy too bad.but it is obvious that its something really quite big, so i could really do with some advice. thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): This used to happen to me with my friend, she used to take to staying in and i couldnt understand why. Get a letter or message to her and try and be patient. She sounds like she may of been kept in by her parents. Dont let it get you down. I bet she tells you all in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): Just let her know that you are there for her when she is allowed out. She wont be grounded forever, parents will get sick of her being around the house etc! Keep in touch with her and dont get judgemental. It sounds like her parents have grounded her, just be there for her.
take care
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Hey sweetness,
It sounds like maybe she is grounded by her parents? I assume it's a family thing or that she got in trouble for something intense... maybe she lied to her parents or failed a test or something. As for what you should do (you sound like a great friend) is to just be as wonderful and supportive as you can be. I would buy her a big stack of magazines for her to read while she's stuck in the house.
Don't worry about it, sweetness. Just keep being a great friend and she'll open up to you when she's ready.
xx India
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reader, H4NN4H-B4BYx +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Dont get to worried about this, if your friend doesnt want to tell then dont force it out of her, let her tell you when she is ready it might be something very personal.
And about then prom mabey her parents are strict or something has happened in her family which she doesnt want to tell people about.
So my advice would be to just give her your suport and cheer her up as much as you can. Good Luck! x
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 You are a good friend. The way to continue being one is to not pry too much, and simply be there for her. If she feels comfortable enough, after a while, she may open up to you. It's the best that you can do for her under the circumstances. If she is being grounded, she might not want to talk about it. If her family doesn't approve of the prom for religious reasons, or if they are simply strict, they have the right to raise their daughter as they see fit. If they can't afford to send her to prom, she might be embarrassed. There are lots of reasons why this might be happening, but a good friend doesn't speculate, pry or make someone uncomfortable when they are upset. Just continue being her friend, that's probably all that she wants from you right now, and she's lucky to have you!
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